hi firsttimemummy, it is a very common argument, who has the harder job. who does more work, who makes more money. This argument has been happening since forever, but it doesn't have to be that way. If you both try to start with a new page, open and honest communication, what your needs are and what his needs are. There are still only 24 hours in a day, and if you continue to spend time arguing and not reaching a solution, then there will be precious little time left for you to find your peace. Life is full of changes, and compromise, find some balance that you are both happy with, so the whole argument is laid to rest. hugs marie.