The way it works in our house is I work 3 days, DH works 5 days. I get 2 days off mid week with DS, so I do all groceries, errands, housework etc with DS with me on those days. Not exactly fun for him, but we also get fun activities in there too.
On the days that I work, DH helps out at home equally - bathing DS, putting him to bed, doing dishes, general tidy up of living space (getting DSs toys put away).
On the days that I don't work, DH still bathes DS and puts him to bed as he enjoys that time with him, but I don't expect him to do anything else as I've had all day to do my 'jobs' while DH is at his job.
On the weekends while we're both home we share all child duties equally, but I make sure that the laundry & housework is done during the week. DH takes care of the outside jobs (mowing, gardens, etc).
This is what we feel is equal for us. If I had 3 child free days and didn't work I personally wouldn't expect DH to do any housework, but would still expect equal help with child rearing. That's what works for us and neither of feel any resentment about who does more/works harder.
Last edited by Frankenmum; 29-10-2015 at 21:30.
I think the OP has been really good about taking the comments on board.
Can I just add if you've only been off work for about 2 weeks give it time. You're both in a period of transition and you might find it works out ok or it might not.
Honestly unless you are running a business you don't need 3 days to get housework and other jobs done. I have 4 kids and I would think 1 day a week would be plenty for me.
I'm not sure to be honest what the answer is. Saying you're busy on those 3 days would be a little hard to believe. Sorry just saying how it seems to me.
I'm not flat out busy all 3 days but 2 out of the 3 days I'm non stop. We have a big home that requires a lot of cleaning and I'm anal when it comes to cleaning.
I'm not trying to make excuses. I do see your point. I'm very poor at organising my days. I find that the hours run away from me and before I know it, it's 5pm and I'm left thinking "what the heck did I do with the whole day?"
Honestly if the tables were turned and my DH had 3 days a week to himself I'd expect everything to be done too.
Neither of us have days without the kids but on days we are home with the kids there's an expectation that house stuff gets done too, obviously when we are both home we both get in and do stuff and when one gets home from work they jump in and do stuff with the kids.
But overall in our house, if you are home, there's housework to be done.
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