So my not so DH and I keep having the same fight like a broken record. It goes along the lines of something like this. I feel unappreciated for all that I do for our household. I confront him about how I feel that he doesn't listen to me and that I don't feel heard (he's forever interrupting me, cutting me off and speaking over me). He gets defensive and tells me I'm always complaining or looking for trouble. A fight starts. Somehow we ALWAYS end up doing this ridiculous tug of war where he tells me how stressful his job is and that I'm ungrateful (I'm so not! I'm always telling him and showing him how much I appreciate that he works for us so I can stay home for DD) and he then tells me that I have it easy. Yes you heard that right. I have it easy because I don't have to go to work. Yes because raising a child is easy isn't it? A walk in the park apparently!
I then lose my sh$t and say horrible stuff as does he and then we end up saying sorry the next day or a few days later, we're fine for a few weeks and then the sh$t starts all over again!
Am I the only one going through this or is this a regular occurrence in your household? How do you deal with it? Quite frankly it needs to stop because I can't keep doing this stupid tug of war. I just don't want to do it anymore 😔
For the most part, he's great. He bathes DD most nights and gets her ready for bed. He sometimes helps me clear up after dinner and helps with odd jobs like hanging the washing. He's definitely not lazy but I feel he becomes complacent which then leaves me feeling unappreciated.
Am I expecting too much?
Be honest but please go easy. I don't need brutality 😳