there are ways around it - for the right person in some situations - but its much harder.
The thing that I find hardest to understand about a choice to unschool is the lack of other role models and instructors in the childs life.
At school children learn to take instruction from others. From teachers, from other students (student councils, groups etc), from parent helpers, from sports coaches or library helpers or admin staff. They learn that they wont always like or respond to everyone, but they learn resiliance in dealing with those people. They learn to develop relationships and respect for others in those situations.
they learn to work (and play) in groups. Not only those they like and are friends with out of choice, but those they dont know or sometimes dont like. They learn to make friends and how to join a group that is already formed. They learn leadership skills, and how to follow someone elses leadership.
And those skills are all incredibly valuable as you get older and into adulthood. Valuable in forming personal relationships, in work, at home, wherever....
Unschooling (by choice) means that the kids miss out on a lot of those things.
I think if you ever come across an unschooler (or parents who unschool) and said this they'd laugh at you.
My only regret with unschooling is not starting earlier. The only drawback (for me and many others) is the constant backlash, though usually it comes down to not understanding.
But at school they do it 8 hrs a day, 5 days a week.
with unschooling - its my understanding that its very child-led. So if the child doesnt like an instructor or a sports coach ... you would stop doing that activity. You socialise with friends and family ... with those the kids like and get along with.
the kids arent put in situations where they have to learn to cope with the unfamiliar. Or learn how to get along with someone they dont like much ....
that is at least my experience with families who unschool (some friends of friends who do this)
And I also liken it to anti vaxxers who prefer to search google and read conspiracy sites over listening to medical professionals, thinking they know better. Teaching is so much more complex than most people think. There are so many layers to teaching reading and fractions, and programming for classes. Teachers are obviously professional educators, while some are crap they are professionally trained. Teaching kids to count the petals on a flower at 4 may seem easy, but if some of the teachers even in this thread explained the processes to teaching maths concepts, 99% of lay people would have no idea.
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