Is your partner on board now?
Is your partner on board now?
Why do people feel they know more about someone else's child/children/family/situation and what suits that best? Isn't that a very special form of arrogance, honestly?
Homeschooling, unschooling and other forms of "alternative" education are all regulated and approved (or not) by local governing bodies. Whether or not YOU approve, the government does, the family involved does, and perhaps that's all you need to know.
Also, the "they won't know how to write an essay!" argument is just totally incorrect. First, homeschooling is fluid. Homeschooling, or unschooling the primary years does not in any way chain you into a lifestyle where your child cannot enter formal tuition at any time. Secondly, how many mainstream educated children graduate without a clue how to write an essay? Plenty. Personally, I was a delinquent student, loathed school, went out of my way to learn nothing and fail subjects due to other life troubles, and left in grade nine to start working my first job. Fast forward ten years, I used a tertiary education preparation program (offered by, oh, every single university in Australia), learned the requisite skills in a few months and entered university in the course I wanted, earning a HD (80%) in my first essay.
The idea that there is one way to learn, and that it is the government mandated curriculum, is simply short sighted and doesn't encompass all the different ways of living and ways of learning that are (thankfully) free for families to pursue in this country.
School is not the real world. Kids who are home/unschooled ARE in the real world, they live it everyday. They're not stuck in a classroom 6 hours a day 5 days a week and only allowed to play with children tjeir own age. Some schools won't even allow siblings to play together!
Do you think school is the only place kids can learn? Do you think school is the only place to socialise? I think it's the worst if I'm going to be honest.
Do you think your child will only ever get a good job (a job/career they love) if they only get good grades or if they're tested/grades at all?
I'm not against schools entirely, there are some great alternative education out there and lots of great, passionate teachers, but to me/us this is our life and that of many others. My dayghters go to a democratic school two days a week. It might be only one day or no days. Or it could be 4.
Do you have the research a pp asked for? I am genuinely interested to read it as well. Thanks.
Fair points Born and I agree with you in some respects. But I see a bit of irony in the whole idea that mainstream schoolers are placing their own ideas of education onto their kids and others. Many home schoolers and unschoolers educate this way bc of their own beliefs about learning and education. Many start their kids from kinder in this alternative style without even trying mainstream.
Also my concern is that kids with developmental disorders need not only qualified teachers but those with specialised training in diverse needs. I admit I'm bias, but I believe unschooling is the worst possible option for a child already struggling. Programs like reading recovery have been developed based on real research. They work. I totally agree that mainstream schooling can be a one-size-fits-all but it's changing. We have a gifted program, remedial programs, including ones just for ADHD/ASD. We have a school band, a dance group a chess club.
I think sometimes homeschoolers and unschoolers can be just as blinkered and bias as the mainstream system and have their own agenda as opposed to what is good for their kids.
I like mainstream education for kids that work in that mould. Like me. I thrived in a selective school environment where education and music and sport were the only thing that mattered. I excelled in that environment. I did law at uni and also did extremely well at that.
Then I had a daughter with extreme anxiety who is also profoundly gifted. And I watched her get lost in a mainstream school system that failed her daily. I also watched my eldest suffer bullying to the point she became depressed and self harmed.
Needless to say I spent about a year desperately trying to find somewhere else to send them. It's extremely fortunate for me that DH and I have the income to send our kids to very expensive schools that meet the needs of our kids and they are both now very settled and happy.
What if I hadn't had the income though? How many other kids don't have the luck DH and I have that even with 4 kids we can afford to find the best school for each of them even if it means they end up at different schools.
I see so many of my friends without the means whose kids have additional needs who are beside themselves over their kids and their experiences at school.
Yes schools are improving but maybe it's just where we live but it's not fast enough. Class sizes of 25 or 26 are way too much for my DD to handle as she doesn't cope with noise.
I wouldn't home school as I know myself and I don't have the patience for it. I'm also not a Sahm. But I can definitely see why parents do it.
And most seem to come around to it after their child struggles at a mainstream schools. It's often not the first choice for the first child.
I don't know how to put links up, sorry..
But if you look on youtube about homeschooling and unschooling (TEd talks are great), talk to others who are or have been unschooled, look at the pros and cons.. It's all out there to be research. Read unschool blogs, meet and interact with unschoolers (parents and children).
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