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    Default Sex during pregnancy

    Maybe not the right category for this topic, but it has me feeling quite blue… I Keep hearing all these things about women who achieve orgasm quicker and have better orgasms during pregnancy, i'm 14 weeks pregnant and I can't seem to orgasm at all… I don't know why it's never been a problem for me before… But the lack of release along with all the pregnancy hormones is causing me to be extremely emotional which makes everybody around me uncomfortable… and I end up sitting alone wondering what the hell to do… my partner and I used to have a very active sex life however now that I'm pregnant he keeps saying that I am brittle or he feels like he's going to hurt me or the baby if we have sex.. I've reassured him that it's not going to hurt me or the baby and sex is completely fine during pregnancy,.... He says he knows this… He has other kids… I feel like it might be some sort of excuse, I don't know why, he doesn't mind it when I perform oral sex with him… and now I'm at the point where even doing that leaves me excited and wanting more and him not willing to engage in such acts… but now even when we do have sex, I just can't get myself to the point of orgasm… Do any of you have any advice? Anything would really help… this is my first pregnancy and I've only ever heard good things about sex during pregnancy... I don't know if this is normal..

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    I don't really have any advice on what to do to rectify the situation other than keep communicating with him and hopefully it improves over time. I did want to say however when I was pregnant with my first I absolutely detested sex, it was horrible, then with my second I couldn't get enough. Could you enlist some extra help of the battery variety to see if that helps? Hope it improves for you soon xx

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    Don't really have great advice either - I hate sex when I am pregnant it's an absolute chore and I definitely can't orgasm. Can't get it over with fast enough. I don't even like DH touching me in those areas. However my DH seems to have my dose of the 'pregnancy horniness' and wants it even more than usual, and gets pretty upset when I decline.

    Can imagine u would feel pretty cr@p if your partner is showing disinterest though. Not good for your self esteem or state of mind.

    I think as PP suggested, keep the communication open, maybe try giving each other massages etc instead and try different things to what you normally would. Tell him what you would like him to do and be gentle and understanding. If he isn't comfortable having sex whilst u are pregnant you may have to find a compromise of sorts. It's not forever 😉

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    Might be a little full on but what if you got assistance from a vibrator when having sex? That might entice him more?

    My husband was reluctant to have sex with my first pregnancy, but second one I didnt want sex at all.... Over both pregnancies, I never felt it was more amazing or different, where I had friends whose libido had increased and couldn't get enough..

    Communication is the key - and say statements like 'I feel xxxx', snd 'this is how its making me feel', etc....

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    I think I had sex once during my last full term pregnancy. Was not interested at all. With my first though I had an insatiable appetite for it and we expected I'd be the same with my second, but the opposite was true. I had a lot of other stressors happening during my last pregnancy though, so I think it was more of a mental thing as opposed to hormones.
    Could it be that having your partner act with apprehension towards you lately and feeling rejected in a sense has subconsciously thrown you off or made you paranoid or affected your connection?

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    I don't think that's the concern.

    Op, you'd almost be ready to pop? How are you going?

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    My husband didn't want sex during preg.

    Wanna know what happened? I had my daughter now I have a 10 month age gap😒 EXHAUSTING

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    I think it's quite common. While I was pregnant with DS, neither of us was interested in the 1st trimester then things went back to "normal" in the 2nd and then DH went off sex again in the 3rd as he was concerned about hurting me/baby. I was so up for it but DH wasn't not interested in the slightest (or maybe just occasionally after lots of nagging/begging from me).


 

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