I am posting annonymously, not for my sake but for privacy for my daughter.
My DD is 5, & ever since she was a tiny baby,she has had a 'rocking' motion to lull herself to sleep. It looks like 'humping', but was just a self- soothing thing.
Lately, she has started doing it again, she lays on the couch rocking her pelvis with her hands on her vulva. She gets very sweaty and breathy. I spoke to her gently & just said that if she wants to rock like that,she needs to do it in private in her bed. She hot annoyed with me &said 'no! I like it. I like the bit at the end when my bottom feels tickly. It feels nice' etc. I said that bottoms are private, so yes it does feel nice, but it needs to be done in private.
She was a bit annoyed at me, &Im not sure if Ive said the right thing. I grew up VERY repressed sexually,&I want her to know that sexual feelings etc are ok. But I dont want her m@sturbating etc publicly, I am worried she will do it at school/ friends houses etc, so I feel like she needs to know at this age to do it in private. I have always talked about body parts very matter of factly whether an elbow or a p$nis, so now I have started having to say that some things are a bit private.
Has anyone had a similar talk with their child? What did you say? Did I do the right thing? I will admit it makes me feel very uncomfortable to talk about due to my own upbringing,but I am really trying so hard to promote open &honest communication & a sense of 'this is normal'. HELP!