Also peak crying is 3-10 wks. Then it does improve.
Also peak crying is 3-10 wks. Then it does improve.
Congratulations on your baby!
I feel your exhaustion and desperation through your post. I want to help, I wish I could just pop over to your house, make you some lunch and put you to bed while I carry and rock your baby for you while you catch up on some sleep, but, unfortunately i don't think that's geographically possible!
My two girls were the same. I had a sling for dd1, but I found that the sling made me more sore, and more exhausted, the way that it was across my body really hurt and I just couldn't continue. I was exhausted. I then bought an ergo with the infant insert, this was much better, as bub was upright and right in the centre of my body, I was more symmetrical and had a lot less pain, and I could physically walk with her in the sling for much longer.
Also, I took dd2 to a chiropractor, he made a big difference, she was a few weeks old at the time. When dd2 was lying down, she looked like a backward facing c, you could see how crooked and out of alignment she was.
Good luck, remember that this phase will pass. Enjoy your baby snuggles.
Really feel for you as I know how tough it is. My now 4 month old was the same but the good news was that it really peaked at 9 weeks but then got better very quickly so by 12 weeks he was a normal happy baby. I know there can be lots reasons for the crying but for my baby I think he just needed to cry to let out his frustration and he seemed to be textbook for the descriptions of purple crying.
Sorry I can't be much help but like the others have said the only thing that saved me was wearing him in a carrier and just being our the house all day. I would literally stay out until about 6.30 which is when I start getting my toddler ready for bed with dinner etc as the evenings were the worst. It's tough and exhausting but it does get better I promise! X
That sounds utterly exhausting, OP! I really feel for you. Hang on in there, it will get better soon.
I agree with PPs- give a swing a try. They're often available on Gumtree (rather than spending a fortune on a new one). If your LO likes the motion of the car, there's a good chance she may settle in a swing. In the meanwhile, hugs to you!
Definitely try a swing and/or a bouncer. My babes have all been once that don't like to be still, I found a fisher price cradle swing that goes from side to side (NOT the backwards and fowards ones) invaluable. Also a comfy bouncer that you can bounce with your foot. Much of my kids newborn time was spent in bouncer, facing me while I sat down for a rest and would bounce with my feet. They could see me and were still moving but I didn't have to walk around for a while which was great. The swing was hit and miss because even though it had the movement going for it, they wanted to see me as well. Give it a go! I also baby wore a lot so babe was always attached to me if not in the bouncer or swing.
Oh - with the swing try a baby shop and put baby in each one to see if she likes one/stops crying in any. Same with bouncer.
Thanks everyone for the replies, really kind of you.
We do have a bouncer and that will sometimes work for a little while, like often we put her in that for dinner so we can rock her with one hand while we eat. Buys us usually 10-15 mins.
Surprisingly she sleeps ok at night, most nights she co-sleeps next to me. She wakes up for 2 feeds, one at around 1am, then around 4am, but settles quickly after that. Guess we should be grateful.
The pram works and going for walks is great, but again, as soon as you stop moving, she's awake and crying. I feel really bad about relying on my partner for help because I'm the one on maternity leave. Hardly seems fair that he has to go to work and then come home and be handed a screaming baby.
I will try the swing idea, I think I loved those as a baby so maybe like mother like daughter.
I was googling colic and found this - https://www.babydoc.com.au/faq/colic...baby-to-sleep/
Seems to make sense, does anyone have any thoughts on this? I might try it. We had all but given up on swaddling because she wriggles and kicks so much, she always unwrapped herself and sleeps fine at night without anything but I might start trying to again.
Oh hun, it sounds completely exhausting. My 2nd child was like this, & it turns out she had horrific reflux &food allergies. What are her bowel movements like? If they are frequent, frothy, green or mucousy,she might have a food intolerance that is causing tummy pain - I know cows milk and egg are common ones.
If I were you, I'd also consider giving Infant Gaviscon a try. Just to rule out reflux. You can buy it without a script, & should improve the screaming if reflux was the problem. I only mention it because it really sounds so much like reflux to me.
Also, look up a 'Colic Massage' on youtube. It was an absolute lifesaver for me.
I also agree with a swing. I got one 2nd hand on gumtree. Best rhing I ever bought.
I hope it improves hun, it sounds really rough. Dont let the dr's tell you that its normal for babies to cry,what you are describing is more than normal. Xx
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