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    Hi everyone,
    I have a 5 week old baby who isn't yet making eye contact. He was born at 37 weeks so I'm not sure if his development might be a fraction delayed because he was early? I haven't been able to get him to gaze into my eyes yet. Has anyone else had an experience like this with their baby? Freaking out a bit!

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    He's so young! I'm not an expert on infant development or anything but I wouldn't worry.
    I don't remember this with my son, but I do remember that he didn't smile at me until he was about 3 months old, and they're 'supposed' to do that at around 6 weeks! It was a little worried at the time but as far as I can tell he's perfectly normal and happy at 16 months.

    I know it's tough waiting for those early signs of intelligence and connection between the two of you. Hope you don't have to wait too much longer

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    Do you have a maternal health nurse or someone doing your postnatal care? If it were me I would ask their opinion. At the very least they can monitor development and let you know if anything should be investigated by a pede etc.

    I don't have experience with a premature baby, but I know if it was me I'd be freaking out too, if only comparing to my first bubba. But I know there is a wide range of 'normal' too.

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    I don't think babies can even see beyond light and dark till 6wks old. And their focal length is pretty much from boob to face.

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    Babies can see well enough at that age to see and recognize your face - studies with babies only a few days old have shown that they prefer faces over other objects. However, paying attention to something like holding a gaze is hard work for newborns! It can be quite exhausting for them and if they have anything else going on (feeding, health, sleep issues etc) they probably won't have much energy left. Does bub look at you at all, even for fleeting moments? Is it just the sustained gaze that you're worried about?

    I think it's worth raising with your maternal & child health nurse or GP. My DS has some delays so I know how worrying it can be. Better to ask the question and either get the reassurance that all is well or get whatever help might be needed.

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    He does look at me fleetingly but then quickly averts his eyes. I spoke to the community nurse yesterday and she just gave me a funny look and said to keep trying and we'll reassess when he is 6 weeks. Thus I am just worried. I know that all babies are different, I suppose it's just such a major development milestone that I am so focused on it. Really appreciate you all taking the time to reply x

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    Technically your baby is only 2 weeks old as he was born early. Most developmental milestones are attached to a babies due date instead of birth date as it is due to brain development in weeks from conception not when they exited the womb. I'd be waiting a bit longer. It took my little girl quite a while to properly look at me like she was registering who I am, as pp said it is also very exhausting for them and they will especially look away when tired. I think gazing at you is tied to the 6 week mental development leap (or wonder week) so you might have to wait a few more weeks. Don't worry just yet.

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    37-42 weeks is full term. I wouldn't worry. What your little one is doing is perfectly normal for his age. It will all happen in time.
    Congratulations on his arrival

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    Hi Tbell , just woneeding to see how your little one is doing with her eye contact ?

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    I'm blessed with twin boys and they will be 10 weeks in a few days. They were born at 37.5 wks
    one twin has been very responsive in terms of eye contact, smiling and communication Infact he is I think a bit more advance than his age however the other one doesn't make much eye contact. He looks at other things but seems like he avoids eye contact on purpose . As you can imagine I'm devastated thinking the worst case senario. We had his eyes checked , he has a condition in one of the eye unfortunately not curable which might only see lights , colours and shadows
    however the other eye is perfectly normal and I'm so worried as why he is not looking at me with the good eye he smiles when I talk to him and touch his face but no eye contact !!!


 

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