I went to the pharmacy to ask if there was anything at all I can take while pregnant and breastfeeding. "You can use the Fess spray. You could try something like sudafed, but you can't use that for more than 5 days and some pharmacists recommend not using it at all. Take some panadol and drink lots of fluids." (I know it's not your fault but) thanks for your help!
I have to say DH has at least recognised how unwell I am feeling. Could have something to do with the paleness of my skin, the heart palpatations or my general lethargy. Not sure which one has done it, but I got a nap this afternoon, and DH actually kept DS quiet and away from the door.
I hope you have a speedy recovery. Sending as much positive energy as I have x
Hugs @HeavenBlue and @Tiny Dancer.
We are so silly aren't we? We get sick and want someone to recognise that and offer. We don't ask. And then we struggle and blame ourselves for not asking.
I don't know what the solution is. Its easy to say just ask for help but It's inbuilt I think to martyr ourselves in the hope people will realise how much we sacrifice to no available.
Many many hugs. I hope you both get some rest. You will survive. Try not to make it too hard on yourselves and get brave and ask for help!
I feel for you mumma's. Pregnant, sick and a sick little person is definitely a special kind of hell. I had it happen to me a few weeks back although it was my 2 under 2 sick and me just not coping.
Please look after yourselves xx
Thank you all for the wonderful kind words and support, it's more than I've gotten here at home.
When I said that DP was helping out, I spoke too soon. 5 minutes later he was calling out to come and get a hysterical DS from the bath so I could dry and dress him. He did sort dinner but that was reheating some left over pasta bake and making a cheese toasty for me. He then just yelled at DS the whole time because he didn't want to eat, except some of my cheese toasty. I was happy to share because I wasn't able to eat anyway. I then got to do bedtime and came down to the mess. At 830 I declared I was going to bed and without even looking at me he just said 'k'.
I came down this morning to a trashed kitchen, last nights food scraps still in the bin (because the Otto bin 2 meters out the back door is too far to go) and just general mess.
Mil was very quick to excuse herself this morning from providing any help because apparently she has a headache and yesterday she felt a bit achy. She's not even sure she can watch DS on Thursday now when I'm meant to go to work.
Sorry, this has turned into a massive vent again. I guess I'm just over it all and being sick has tipped me over the edge. I'm tired of being alone and doing everything on my own. I don't feel loved or appreciated one tiny bit these days and I generally just feel alone and uncared for.
This is NOT how I thought I'd be feeling with my second child on the way. I'm genuinely considering leaving because I think I would feel more whole and happy alone rather than living with someone so selfish.
Sorry, ranting again.
Thanks ladies. I really do appreciate you taking time out to show a little kindness and empathy. It really does mean a lot.
Heavenblue, I wish I could come round and give you a hand. You have so much on your plate, and no one to take a bit of the load. hugs, maire.
@HeavenBlue that just absolutely sucks. I'm so sorry your DH is being an ***. I wish there was more I could say or do. I just don't understand how some people can be so oblivious to the suffering of those they profess to love - and totally understand your feelings of resignation too. Do what ever you have to do to get through the day - tv, treats, whatever works! Stuff the housework just try and get some rest if you can xx
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