massive hugs xx that must have been awful to hear xx
So sorry Ally. I thought your next step was going to be IVF with genetic testing, why isn't that an option anymore? Or it is but you don't feel optimistic and feel it'd be a waste of money?
That must've been like a harpoon in the heart to hear Luv...am so sorry😦 (((hugs)))
I still would urge you to see a FS to discuss the possibility of PGD testing if you can bear it.
The DE route is just as expensive plus it never hurts to get a second or even third opinion sometimesxo
I really wouldn't take your OB's advice on this and would get a second opinion. Have you spoken to a geneticist? That may be a good place to start in terms of putting your mind at ease about the chances of another embryo having a disorder. I saw one when we lost our daughter at Mercy in Heidleberg that was really fab, i can PM you her name if you're keen? They haven't all had the same disorder if I'm remembering correctly, right?
I don't want this next sentence to be taken as though I'm minimizing your losses, I know this has all been ****ing hard. But I really think this is all just a round of really **** genetic luck and that you are perfectly capable of conceiving and carrying a viable and healthy pregnancy. I know it's hard to be optimistic right now but hopefully you'll be able to be in the weeks to come. X
Yeah but 3 out if 4 tested babies have had really **** genetics
Most miscarriages are from genetics being not right. A woman such as yourself can have many miscarriages and most go on to have perfect babies. You have had such bad luck but so have many women on here that have dug deep and kicked over every obstacle thrown there way and got there. This is in your hands, get the right advice and go for it. An FS and genetic advice is the first place to start.
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