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    Default 5 losses and counting

    Quote Originally Posted by Mod-Allymumtobe View Post
    So I guess an update is overdue. I finally had my follow up appointment with the OB.

    This baby had turners syndrome. And was another little girl.

    My OB told me that if I was 40 shed suggest I stop trying. However because I appear to carry pregnancies well egg donation would be a good step going forward. If my DH had a normal fertility level we could keep trying a few more years and possibly eventually get lucky. And of course to genetic testing on embryos. I don't really want to place a 10k bet on my 3/4 tested babies having bad genetics.

    Big sad.
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    massive hugs xx that must have been awful to hear xx

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    So sorry Ally. I thought your next step was going to be IVF with genetic testing, why isn't that an option anymore? Or it is but you don't feel optimistic and feel it'd be a waste of money?

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    That must've been like a harpoon in the heart to hear Luv...am so sorry😦 (((hugs)))

    I still would urge you to see a FS to discuss the possibility of PGD testing if you can bear it.

    The DE route is just as expensive plus it never hurts to get a second or even third opinion sometimesxo

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    Quote Originally Posted by HollyGolightly81 View Post
    So sorry Ally. I thought your next step was going to be IVF with genetic testing, why isn't that an option anymore? Or it is but you don't feel optimistic and feel it'd be a waste of money?
    Exactly I kinda feel like out of 6 embies that's not enough of a chance given our history of getting a lot if genetically good chances

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    I really wouldn't take your OB's advice on this and would get a second opinion. Have you spoken to a geneticist? That may be a good place to start in terms of putting your mind at ease about the chances of another embryo having a disorder. I saw one when we lost our daughter at Mercy in Heidleberg that was really fab, i can PM you her name if you're keen? They haven't all had the same disorder if I'm remembering correctly, right?

    I don't want this next sentence to be taken as though I'm minimizing your losses, I know this has all been ****ing hard. But I really think this is all just a round of really **** genetic luck and that you are perfectly capable of conceiving and carrying a viable and healthy pregnancy. I know it's hard to be optimistic right now but hopefully you'll be able to be in the weeks to come. X

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    Yeah but 3 out if 4 tested babies have had really **** genetics

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    Most miscarriages are from genetics being not right. A woman such as yourself can have many miscarriages and most go on to have perfect babies. You have had such bad luck but so have many women on here that have dug deep and kicked over every obstacle thrown there way and got there. This is in your hands, get the right advice and go for it. An FS and genetic advice is the first place to start.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Mod-Allymumtobe View Post
    Yeah but 3 out if 4 tested babies have had really **** genetics
    Like lily said, most miscarriages are due to **** genetics, many women go on to have healthy babies after multiple miscarriages. I think getting an opinion from an FS and geneticist is best before you feel you should give up. X


 

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