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    Default 5 losses and counting

    I have too much swirling around right now. Had my 3rd d&c yesterday. So so far my score card stands at:
    1. Early loss 4.5weeks july 2012
    2. Angus T18 30 weeks induction and manual placenta removal April 2013
    3 barney lost at 6 weeks d&c at 8 weeks February 2014 (no genetic badness)
    4. Jellybean 8 weeks d&c December 2014 T16
    5. Itsy 9 weeks d&c, yesterday suspected molar placenta with bloodloss

    Im kinda at a loss. Before the d&c I assumed yet again my body had thrown out another genetically crappy egg or that I'd developed ashermans syndrome but the doctor performing said that the placenta was looking a little large and cancery and caused some bleeding on the way out.

    Im wondering, (depending on the baby's actual DNA) should I give up use Ivf with genetic testing and use a surrogate or roll the dice again?
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    Sorry for yet another loss. I would be seeking FS advice and considering embryo testing. If you have it in you then roll the dice again. What a horrible time you have been through

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    Oh ally, I'm so sorry to hear of more heartache for you. I have no advice just want to send many hugs to you xx

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    I've no words to make you feel better but I'm just heartbroken for you.
    Take care darling X.

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    Ally, what you've been through is just unimaginable

    I'm far from an expert on these matters, but I hope someone here can give you some good advice.

    Do you have an excellent specialist who can guide you on deciding what is best to do next?

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    I would find a FS who specialises in recurrent loss and give IVF a shot. If you have it in you. Big hugs, what a horrible thing to go through multiple times ,

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    So sorry Ally xxx I have no advice at all but sending you my love and thoughts.

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    Are you doing ivf with genetic testing already?

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    I am so sorry to hear, reading your story is truly heart breaking.

    I am no expert on the matter, but I do have a friend who had 14 rounds of IVF (and multiple surgeries, miscarriages etc) before they finally got a take home bubba. I know there are no regrets for them and as much as it's easy for me to say, I would do everything I could to try again and again until I had no more options. I really hope you can get some excellent professional advice and be kind to yourself. You are so amazing to have survived this far and been through so much.

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    Oh Luv, that's a truly sh!tty hand you've been dealt and I'm so very sorry you've had to go through it time and again I'm sorry for your losses...so terribly unfair!!!

    I think if you can find the inner strength and courage to go forward from here then yes, getting the opinion of a FS in regards to PGD is a very good idea under the circumstances. If you were willing to try again & could afford to do it then at least you would know that any embryo's transferred either to you/surrogate if one is recommended though I'm hoping it won't come to that, will be chromosomally normal which will give you some peace of mind I'm sure.

    Wishing you all the very best Luvxo

    ETA- If you don't already have a FS in mind, I'm sure there will be many BH's more than happy to give recommendations on who might be the best person to help you.
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