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    Hugs Harvs! I feel like poop today and I absolutely lost it at DS1. I was a serious screaming crazy lady. It happened a couple of weeks ago too just as my FIL walked in the driveway. I wanted the ground to swallow me up. I always apologise, explain why I was upset and what he could have done to not upset mummy. He is 4 1/2 and incredibly challenging at the moment. The best thing to do is acknowledge that it happened and try to do better. You are the very best mum for your DS and he is so lucky to have you- occasional adult tantrum or not. You got this xx

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    I think you should congratulate yourself for making it this long without raising your voice! Toddlers are hard work, and they know how to push all your buttons. I've got a little while to look forward to the toddler years, but I remember babysitting nieces and nephews as toddlers, and boy was I glad to hand them back and relax with a cup of tea.

    You've taught him a few things - it's normal to get mad, how to apologise when you do something wrong, that when you get mad yelling might happen but it's best if it doesn't, and reinforced that you will consistently uphold the same rules.

    Chin up. You're doing an amazing job!

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    Wait. It took you 3 years to raise your voice? Hon, you are amazing, and you are human. Welcome to the club of mums who are not the mother's we set out to be. But we are still good mums to our little ones.

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    Oh harvs

    We all have BAD days. We get pushed to our limit and we lose our cool.

    Last weekend my DS was being unreasonable and unruly on an outing to the skate park - I decided 'screw this, we're going home' and he actually slapped me super hard in the face a couple of times.

    I yelled at him in the car on the drive home through mega tears while he sooked in the back seat. It was horrible

    Your DS is at that difficult age - you will survive this rough stage, it'll get better I promise xxx

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    Big hugs lovely lady.

    This parenting gig is hard work. I personally have had a week of being a raving lunatic towards my kids but here I am, being smothered with the most delicious DS2 cuddles as he snores next to me. Kids are very forgiving, not that you need to be forgiven.

    I know how hard it is, especially doing it on your own. Just cut yourself some slack. You are the best Mum for your little boy, no one else could do a better job than you xxxx

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    Between these comments and the celebrity crushes thread I'm recovering quite nicely from my little meltdown. Thanks legends x

    ETA Mokey I am the same. Sundays are paaaaainfull!

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    Ha! DS to me today- 'mum, daddy just made a rule, no shouting in the house. You're going to get lots of time outs'
    Soooo... You're doing better than me! Xx

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    Hugs Hun. I've lost it before, and no doubt will again. My lovely DD isn't always so lovely and we are having another rough patch now. She's 3.5 and is starting to say sorry and realise when she's been too rough/naughty/mean etc so I'm just hoping the hitting, defiance and screaming at me will stop again soon. She has been lovely the past few months which has been great after a rough year of terrible everythings, but something has changed in the last 3 weeks and her behaviour is getting worse. Lots of timeouts (for both of us!), toy removal and yelling going on here. It wears you down, but don't beat yourself up too much. He still loves you xx


 

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