We have a 3yo DS and a newborn DD. Hubby took 4 weeks off work at my request to help us settle into babyville again. He has spent the entire time either on the ride-on mower, hosing the concrete or playing his guitar. One night he cooked dinner...once...an omelette.
This weekend his parents are coming to stay and I'm trying to get the housework done as it's been left a bit while I've been trying to catch up on some sleep in the afternoons. He keeps calling me a martyr because I'm prioritising it over sleeping in preparation for their visit. He is currently playing his guitar while I clean bathrooms etc between tending to bub (3yo is in daycare today thank goodness). He wouldn't care if the house was putrid and thinks I'm ridiculous for trying to keep on top of it and particularly that I'm making it a higher priority because his parents are coming. I have written him a list of jobs (at his request), which he has ticked ONE thing off in two weeks. I'm so freaking furious at him right now. He may as well be at work and at least I'd be able to get some housework done without seeing his eyes rolling, being called a martyr and having to listen to him merrily playing his guitar while I'm freaking exhausted but doing housework anyway!!
Does anyone else have a husband who resents you doing housework?!
I just asked him how it's going to get done if I sleep all day (which he thinks means he's free to play guitar) and his suggestion was to just fit it in in bite sized chunks!!! It doesn't occur to him that keeping on top of the washing and mess that he and DS create are a full time job with a newborn, let alone that he could actually lift a finger himself!!! When I suggested it he flew into a mood and said "I've been mowing all morning!", like that equates to being entitled to play all afternoon while I've been working in the house all day and up half the night with bub while he snores in bed. Am I being unreasonable here?!