Our first child is 20 months old. He is generally a very well behaved and happy little boy. My husband and I disagree on a couple of things relating to discipline and safety however.
1) We have removed everything that is a danger to our son in his environment, but there are still things we haven't removed that we just don't want him to touch (stereo, books on shelves, etc). But being a curious toddler he touches them multiple times a day, and my husband shouts at him for it. I believe we should just remove these things from his reach as he will inevitably go for them and I don't want him shouted at all the time. My husband believes we shouldn't remove these things, and that we should be able to teach him not to touch them by shouting at him whenever he touches them. Am I being unreasonable? Is it appropriate to try teaching him at this age?
2) When my husband changes out son's nappy he leaves him alone on the change table for about 15 seconds while he empties the nappy contents into the toilet. I always deal with the nappy after changing our son to avoid leaving him unattended in case he squirms and falls off. My husband won't do the same as me or even strap him to the change table - he thinks that because he has told our son to "stay" that he won't move. Our son hasn't fallen off to date but I constantly worry that he will. Am I being unreasonable and paranoid?
My husband is a scientist and is only convinced of things when presented with conventional evidence-based research. Where can I find such material to show him? I'm thinking books or research articles. What I currently say is not enough, he just says it's my opinion and not fact.