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    Quote Originally Posted by BigRedV View Post
    I didn't quote you because you were talking about you.

    I was highlighting the fact that your post and other posts in the other thread have mentioned that they are borderline underweight/healthy bmi and are happy with that and that they feel uncomfortable and fat at the higher end of bmi healthy weight range, but as soon as I said that the low/mid range of healthy bmi for me was not for me, and that I feel comfortable at 74kg which is the very high end of healthy weight according to bmi I immediately get asked why and if lower weight is unattainable.

    Why can't people (not singling out you but asking in general) accept that some people are happy and healthy at the higher end of healthy bmi range.

    And I accept that people have small bones/frames but I'm sure a few eyes have rolled when I say that I have s big frame and bones
    Ok. I get what you're saying. I actually agree with you.

    I don't think I mentioned that currently I am not happy with my weight. I have been very worried as I lost weight recently. I am happiest when I am at least 3 kg heavier than what I am at currently. Which puts me in 'healthy' BMI not 'underweight'.

    I also do see where you are coming from with being big framed. You probably have less fat % than a lot of thinner small framed people but don't 'look super thin' because your frame is different. I get that. And I am sorry that people judge you. I hope I don't come across that way and I'm sorry if I do.

    One of my besties is around the same height as me but a totally different build. She runs rings around me and I never ever thought she looked unhealthy, overweight or thought she needs to lose bulk. I admire her for HER and think she looks amazing.

    I think your confidence in yourself is amazing - and I wish the judgement and perception of 'numbers' was a different.

    Hope I make sense.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Frankenmum View Post
    3&4 healthy,
    5 overweight,
    6 and above obese
    same as this

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    Quote Originally Posted by BigRedV View Post
    I meant to address this before but forgot.

    I think it's disgraceful - the modelling industry is getting better in some ways but it's still pretty disgusting.

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    I am at the obese end of the scale. I am not happy about it. I do exercise and I play sport. I am signed up to start 12wbt in November. However, this doesn't define me. I am a good person with weight to lose!!

    This was a great activity to test our perception of the human body. If it was a male drawing would it be such a big deal?

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    Quote Originally Posted by BigRedV View Post
    Yes, but I felt f-/cking amazing on my wedding day, even though I needed to lose another 16kg to be in healthy weight range for bmi.

    Why? Because I trained hard and ate well to lose over 20kg. Damn straight I felt much healthier (and I was much healthier) than I had been in a long time.
    But in other posts you said you don't even have pictures up

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    Default Spin off : what does obese look like?

    Quote Originally Posted by maternidade View Post
    But in other posts you said you don't even have pictures up
    I don't. Because *today* when I look at them, I don't like what I see. But back then I had lost a lot of weight so I did feel good. Does that make sense?

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    It really is all about perception. My best friend is 6 foot tall and was a size 16, and people didn't think she was overweight as she had the height to distribute the weight across. She's now a size 10 and keeps being told that's she's too skinny and has "gone too far".

    I'm 5'2", and after having DS was an overweight bmi (70kgs), but people were always telling me how skinny I was...I'm wasn't at all! I think it's just because I'm so short and have a very small frame it skewed the perception. I also hid it well with flowy dresses and tops!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Frankenmum View Post
    It really is all about perception. My best friend is 6 foot tall and was a size 16, and people didn't think she was overweight as she had the height to distribute the weight across. She's now a size 10 and keeps being told that's she's too skinny and has "gone too far".

    I'm 5'2", and after having DS was an overweight bmi (70kgs), but people were always telling me how skinny I was...I'm wasn't at all! I think it's just because I'm so short and have a very small frame it skewed the perception. I also hid it well with flowy dresses and tops!
    I'm in the same situation but I'm tall @Frankenmum I'm 5"10 and 109kgs. People don't believe me when I tell them my weight. I carry it across my stomach and its hidden with flowy tops too. I want it gone and I know it's going to be hard work. Only if healthy food tasted like dairy milk chocolate ....

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    Quote Originally Posted by babyno1onboard View Post
    I think this thread shows part of the problem with our society! We need to be able to speak openly and honestly about weight if we are to tackle the obesity epidemic. We need to push aside our feelings about our weight and to do that we need to disconnect people's 'worth' from their 'weight'. None of this 'slim is perfect' and 'big is beautiful'.

    In other cultures it's normal to call describe people as fat, skinny, big, small, etc. It's not an insult, it's not fat shaming, it's just saying the truth. It's like describing ones hair colour.
    So true!! Our weight and our figure don't define who we are.

    It's just another adjective!

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    Default Spin off : what does obese look like?

    Quote Originally Posted by meredithgrey View Post
    It seems to be some sort of "compliment" that gets thrown around - "oh you're looking skinny today!"

    I've had people think they're making a compliment by saying "oh have you lost weight" and then get annoyed me when my response is "no, I haven't". Even had some people start an argument with me over it because they're right and I'm wrong *rolls eyes* ....... Um I weigh myself every morning - pretty sure I'd know if I'd dropped a few kg's.
    I have people say this to me when I haven't lost weight, but I have instead lost cm, so look like I've lost weight despite scales being the same.

    Although I don't weigh myself every day.


 

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