And can I just say - I changed my last name to DH's and I'm currently financially dependent on him. But anyone that knows me knows I'm still me, I'm still a spunky, opinionated strong woman. I have my own identity, my own voice. In fact my DH says he married me bc he found my opinionated spunk attractive lol
Not everyone that changes their name or stays home is an insipid, weak person with no identity or independence. And I know people aren't saying that but that's often the innuendo. Yes I'm financially dependent on DH NOW. But I could and would support myself and my kids if I had to. I'm a strong intelligent woman who feels being at home suits MY family. If it stopped suiting my family, and it will in the next few years, then I will return to work.
Ideally, I'd love for my DD to have a career first and then if she has children and decides to be a SAHM, I'd be thrilled. But I would like her to know financial independence/security first and make an informed decision.
As for the surname thing.... I hope my DD does change her surname when she is an adult as she currently has her father's surname and he has nothing to do with her (or her brothers) and doesn't deserve to have such awesomeness named after him lol.
Money doesn't make you happy but money buy you choices and freedom.
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