+ Reply to Thread
Page 4 of 18 FirstFirst ... 2345614 ... LastLast
Results 31 to 40 of 173
  1. #31
    Join Date
    Jun 2005
    Location
    At the beach
    Posts
    10,495
    Thanks
    1,430
    Thanked
    9,005
    Reviews
    3
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 postsEmerald Star - 10,000 posts
    Awards:
    Busiest Member of the Week - week ended 17/10/14100 Posts in a week
    Quote Originally Posted by VicPark View Post
    F@r& me! Can't believe I'm agreeing with both Sonya and Big Red in the one thread
    Quick!!! Buy a lottery ticket!!!!!!

  2. The Following 3 Users Say Thank You to Sonja For This Useful Post:

    BigRedV  (09-10-2015),FearlessLeader  (08-10-2015),harvs  (08-10-2015)

  3. #32
    Join Date
    Jul 2015
    Posts
    6,890
    Thanks
    4,788
    Thanked
    4,225
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 posts
    Awards:
    100 Posts in a week
    Quote Originally Posted by BigRedV View Post
    I didn't change my name when I got married. It was my name for 35 years and it was/is my identity. I haven't thought about how I would feel if my daughters changed their name yet...
    fair chop.

    I guess I consider my identity to me more than, and go further than just my surname.

  4. #33
    Join Date
    Jun 2005
    Location
    At the beach
    Posts
    10,495
    Thanks
    1,430
    Thanked
    9,005
    Reviews
    3
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 postsEmerald Star - 10,000 posts
    Awards:
    Busiest Member of the Week - week ended 17/10/14100 Posts in a week
    Quote Originally Posted by misskittyfantastico View Post
    I guess I come at this from a slightly different standpoint in that my kidney disease is hereditary and my daughter and my sons have a 50% chance of having it too and having renal failure, dialysis etc...
    When you're chronically ill financial independence can be tricky as can any kind of employment so I think I think my circumstances are sort of skewed and I can't think beyond be healthy, be happy, be fulfilled and be loved.
    Anyway, I'll bow out now - not because I'm cranky or upset but because I don't really feel like I can offer much to it xxxx
    I completely respect where you're coming from. We take so much for granted when we are healthy xx

  5. The Following 2 Users Say Thank You to Sonja For This Useful Post:

    JR03  (09-10-2015),misskittyfantastico  (08-10-2015)

  6. #34
    Join Date
    Apr 2012
    Posts
    13,069
    Thanks
    9,846
    Thanked
    12,955
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 postsEmerald Star - 10,000 posts
    Awards:
    Busiest Member of the Week - week ended 9/1/15Busiest Member of the Week - week ended 7/11/14Busiest Member of the Week - week ended 3/10/14100 Posts in a week
    Quote Originally Posted by turquoisecoast View Post
    fair chop.

    I guess I consider my identity to me more than, and go further than just my surname.
    I think if there was a specific reason someone was unhappy with their surname I think I could get why they would take their husbands name on

  7. #35
    Join Date
    Feb 2009
    Location
    my house
    Posts
    17,892
    Thanks
    1,413
    Thanked
    7,517
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 postsEmerald Star - 10,000 postsRuby Star - 15,000 posts
    Quote Originally Posted by turquoisecoast View Post
    fair chop.

    I guess I consider my identity to me more than, and go further than just my surname.
    My surname is used in my career. Massive part of who I am.

  8. #36
    Join Date
    Oct 2007
    Posts
    22,959
    Thanks
    6,252
    Thanked
    17,144
    Reviews
    10
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 postsEmerald Star - 10,000 postsRuby Star - 15,000 postsDiamond Star - 20,000 posts
    Awards:
    Bubhub Blogger - Thanks100 Posts in a week
    And can I just say - I changed my last name to DH's and I'm currently financially dependent on him. But anyone that knows me knows I'm still me, I'm still a spunky, opinionated strong woman. I have my own identity, my own voice. In fact my DH says he married me bc he found my opinionated spunk attractive lol

    Not everyone that changes their name or stays home is an insipid, weak person with no identity or independence. And I know people aren't saying that but that's often the innuendo. Yes I'm financially dependent on DH NOW. But I could and would support myself and my kids if I had to. I'm a strong intelligent woman who feels being at home suits MY family. If it stopped suiting my family, and it will in the next few years, then I will return to work.

  9. The Following 11 Users Say Thank You to delirium For This Useful Post:

    atomicmama  (09-10-2015),BH-KatiesMum  (13-10-2015),Freyamum  (09-10-2015),gingermillie  (08-10-2015),HearMeRoar  (08-10-2015),HillDweller  (09-10-2015),Lauzy  (08-10-2015),Mod-Uniquey  (09-10-2015),Moxy  (09-10-2015),MrsSS  (12-10-2015),munchkin275  (09-10-2015),Rocky27  (09-10-2015)

  10. #37
    Join Date
    Jun 2010
    Location
    Toowoomba
    Posts
    5,570
    Thanks
    6,555
    Thanked
    2,978
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 posts
    Awards:
    200 Posts in a weekBusiest Member of the Week - Week ended 24/7/2014100 Posts in a week
    Ideally, I'd love for my DD to have a career first and then if she has children and decides to be a SAHM, I'd be thrilled. But I would like her to know financial independence/security first and make an informed decision.

    As for the surname thing.... I hope my DD does change her surname when she is an adult as she currently has her father's surname and he has nothing to do with her (or her brothers) and doesn't deserve to have such awesomeness named after him lol.

  11. #38
    Join Date
    Jul 2015
    Posts
    6,890
    Thanks
    4,788
    Thanked
    4,225
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 posts
    Awards:
    100 Posts in a week
    Quote Originally Posted by BigRedV View Post
    My surname is used in my career. Massive part of who I am.
    if my surname was like, on the side of the building or in the company's name then I can understand not changing it.

  12. #39
    Join Date
    Jan 2012
    Location
    Melbourne
    Posts
    4,367
    Thanks
    1,573
    Thanked
    2,594
    Reviews
    10
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 posts
    Awards:
    100 Posts in a week
    Money doesn't make you happy but money buy you choices and freedom.

  13. The Following 8 Users Say Thank You to ExcuseMyFrench For This Useful Post:

    BH-KatiesMum  (13-10-2015),FearlessLeader  (08-10-2015),HearMeRoar  (08-10-2015),Mokeybear  (08-10-2015),NoteToSelf  (08-10-2015),Rose&Aurelia&Hannah  (09-10-2015),rosey82  (08-10-2015),Sonja  (08-10-2015)

  14. #40
    Join Date
    Jul 2015
    Posts
    6,890
    Thanks
    4,788
    Thanked
    4,225
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 posts
    Awards:
    100 Posts in a week
    Quote Originally Posted by VicPark View Post
    I think if there was a specific reason someone was unhappy with their surname I think I could get why they would take their husbands name on
    mine was a real plonker. I couldn't wait to change it. I'd have changed it anyway even if I hadn't got married (I had a good standby name on hand).

  15. The Following User Says Thank You to turquoisecoast For This Useful Post:

    HearMeRoar  (08-10-2015)


 

Similar Threads

  1. Long term Motilium use
    By deku in forum Breastfeeding Support
    Replies: 8
    Last Post: 03-03-2015, 18:15
  2. Long Term TTC chat #2
    By bel2466 in forum Conception & Fertility General Chat
    Replies: 1010
    Last Post: 29-11-2014, 15:57

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
free weekly newsletters | sign up now!
who are these people who write great posts? meet our hubbub authors!
Learn how you can contribute to the hubbub!

reviews
learn how you can become a reviewer!

competitions

forum - chatting now
sales & new stuffsee all
Bub Hub Sales Listing
HAVING A SALE? Let parents know about it with a Bub Hub Sales listing. Listings are featured on our well trafficked Sales Page + selected randomly to appear on EVERY page
featured supporter
Baby U & The Wiggles - Toilet Training Products
Toilet training can be a testing time but Baby U is there to assist you and your toddler with the daunting task of toilet training. With a range of products that can be used at home, on holidays or out & about.
gotcha
X

Pregnant for the first-time?

Not sure where to start? We can help!

Our Insider Programs for pregnancy first-timers will lead you step-by-step through the 14 Pregnancy Must Dos!