We used a celebrant too- I didn't care either way with surnames (reasons given in an earlier post), but H preferred I take it. Haha out of his 3 weddings, I am the only one to take his name- MIL says based on that we'll last.
No I definitely wouldn't be disappointed.
Here's my thoughts...
Life is so short! We have one journey on this earth that is solely ours. We each have individual dreams and aspirations. What brings imense happiness to one person may be completely different to another and that what makes us who we are. I will never be disappointed in my children's life choices (disregarding illegal activity etc). I want to raise them with the knowledge that they can be anything. And if things don't work out that way you can find a way to make it work down a different path. Their journey is their journey, just as mine is mine.. And yours is yours. So no, if my daughter or son fulfilled their desire to be a stay at home parent I would never be disappointed.
And that stands true with my 4 year olds desire to be garbage truck driver 😜
I don't have a DD but if I did... Yep I'd be disappointed. I'm a single mum who is a product of a long term SAHM ... I'm immensely proud of the fact that I don't struggle financially (I budget by choice to maintain my lifestyle of choice) despite my ExH being a douchepouch and changing the course of my life without any notice. If I was dependant on him I can't even imagine how I'd have survived when we split. My beautiful mother became a single mother when we were adults. She lives pay to pay now with a job she is absolutely amazing at but she had little choice. I want more for my kids.
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I realise intellectually they will come to their own decisions but we are so much the product of our upbringings. It can go either way. I know one of the reasons I work is because my mother always did and I liked the dynamic it created between my parents. I was proud of her when I was a kid and I want my kids to feel proud as well.
But this has made me think why I feel the way I do. I will still worry about their financial independence if they are a Sahm. But i guess if I'm honest there are other reasons too.
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