As long as my daughter is happy, had a good relationship with her partner (male or female) & it was her decision I would support her 100%. Not only would she have my support but I'd be extremely proud of her. I would like to think that I'd be close enough to where she was living to give her a day off too. As long as she's happy & it's her decision I'm going to be incredibly proud of whatever she does with her life.
After long term ttc I think that having children is the most precious gift we can ever be given & they grow up way to fast. It also puts it in perspective that family is so important. If she chooses to stay home & raise them then of course I'll be proud Just like if she choose to go back to work I'd be proud of her too. A stay at home Mum is a job that is constantly required with no breaks, you get no pay, no super, no annual leave & no sick leave & absolutely no pay raise for doing a good job but I imagine it is one that is also incredibly rewarding.
I've had a career since 2006, am fairly senior in my chosen field, have done lots of study to get there but it is also such an incredibly demanding career with lots of shift work (full overnight shifts) & fair share of weekends & public holidays including Christmas. My career was very important to me but since having dd it doesn't matter to me anymore. I wish I could be a stay at home mummy to my beautiful dd but realistically we won't be able to afford to do that. I am fortunate that I will be returning to work part time (hopefully 5 shifts a fortnight).
I have some friends who are a stay at home mum & that's all they've ever done & I've got some that did it until kids were in school then got part time jobs & they all seem to be happy.
So like anything she may choose to do, as long as it's what she wants then I will be very happy for her. If she does choose to stay home full time & look after kids I hope I'll be able to be in a position where I can look after them a day a week to give her a day off or help out.
Just like if I have a son & when they have kids if his partner chooses to go to work & he chooses to stay home raising them then I'd also be supportive & just as proud of him too.
I've been married to DH now for 6 years & have a 15 week dd. When we first got married I was so excited to change my surname. I didn't realise how many people would be disappointed if their daughter changed it. I know for me I couldn't wait as it signified that we were a family together & I loved that. So I won't be phased if dd changes her last name later on, it's completely up to her.
Also in regards to stay at home mummies, just because someone chooses to do it for a long length of time doesn't mean that they won't ever be able to renter the workforce. My Mum stayed home & looked after us until I was 15. She always wanted to be a hairdresser so she went to Tafe then got an apprenticeship & did it. She had no issues finding a full time job either so it goes to show as long as you're motivated you can do anything you put your mind too.
Sorry for the long post!