@TortoiseNotTheHare yes we do know our donor. We are very close friends with him and he sort of looks likes me which we liked. yes I am much younger then DP, we really want to try and use her eggs first as she does not have a uterus so will never be able to have a biological child of her own. so we really want to try this first. and the thought of the baby being part of both of us is really lovely.