+ Reply to Thread
Page 7 of 12 FirstFirst ... 56789 ... LastLast
Results 61 to 70 of 118
  1. #61
    Join Date
    Jan 2007
    Posts
    32,361
    Thanks
    122
    Thanked
    491
    Reviews
    9
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 postsEmerald Star - 10,000 postsRuby Star - 15,000 postsDiamond Star - 20,000 posts
    Quote Originally Posted by SAgirl View Post
    Thanks for all the support everyone

    Today has been very hectic and stressful but I went to see my GP, she said from what she ca see of DS1 whilst in her office, he's not showing any worrying signs. She said from the things I told her about DS and his issues we are trying to sort out, and what the daycare said, it's not flagging anything for ASD in her opinion. She said its more along the lines of anxiety which is also what our psych said.

    Then I took ds2 to the CHN and she said again that she can't see any warning signs in him for ASD but she does think he has a few developmental delays, so she's given me these questionnaires to fill out and I'll drop them back next week and we have a follow up appointment the week after.
    Can I just say, I applaud how pro-active you are, despite being understandably stressed about the situation.

    How are you feeling about it now?

  2. The Following 4 Users Say Thank You to DreamyMummy For This Useful Post:

    GrabbyCrabby  (12-10-2015),harvs  (09-10-2015),SAgirl  (09-10-2015),VicPark  (09-10-2015)

  3. #62
    Join Date
    Apr 2013
    Posts
    4,213
    Thanks
    3,646
    Thanked
    3,457
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 posts
    Awards:
    100 Posts in a week

    Default Another daycare issue

    SAgirl your DS2 and my DS are the same age, I really think he sounds like a normal 20 month old, they go through phases of being obsessed with certain things, my whole week has just been a completely repetitive process of moving him away from the sink, he drags a chair over, I move it back and so on. Also the cat. The poor cat right now, he will not leave her alone no matter how many times I move him away--straight back!

    I was the nanny of a boy for a few years that I thought showed a couple signs of autism but I never said anything to his parents and then one day his childcare said something and they asked me what I thought, I was honest that sometimes I thought he seemed fine and then other times I was like 'whoa that's not right.' They got him assessed and the specialists said no to ASD. About a year later the childcare brought it up again, they genuinely couldn't believe the specialists had said no so his parents went and got him assessed again, by different specialists, again they said no to ASD. The childcare center still couldn't believe he didn't get an ASD diagnosis, but what more could his parents do? I felt so bad for them that the centre wouldn't just drop it. His warnings signs were that he gets fixated on things and is HUGE on routine (but doesn't have a tantrum if you stray from it, just constantly points it out). There were a couple other things that were pretty minor but he's a thriving little boy that does well in school and sport and has friends, he can just be a little 'different' sometimes. Different doesn't always have to be a warning sign, ya know?

    Get your DS assessed for peace of mind but I think he's most likely fine and you can put this all behind you. If he does get a diagnosis, like somebody else said he will most likely be very high functioning and your lives won't be impacted by a diagnosis too much. X
    Last edited by HollyGolightly81; 09-10-2015 at 15:49.

  4. #63
    Join Date
    Apr 2013
    Posts
    4,213
    Thanks
    3,646
    Thanked
    3,457
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 posts
    Awards:
    100 Posts in a week
    Just saw your update, did the GP give you a referral or do they think it's unnecessary? Good on you for being so proactive!

  5. #64
    Join Date
    Aug 2010
    Posts
    4,094
    Thanks
    1,386
    Thanked
    1,357
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 posts
    Quote Originally Posted by HollyGolightly81 View Post
    Just saw your update, did the GP give you a referral or do they think it's unnecessary? Good on you for being so proactive!
    Gp said she doesn't think he needs a referral for a paed at this stage as she didn't think he showed any major signs for ASD, she agreed with the psych saying it's probably more anxiety than anything.

    So I got a email from the centre leader at daycare about her 'findings' and reading it put me in a ****ty mood again, I was expecting something more positive from her after our talk yesterday arvo but instead I got more negative stuff about DS and to be honest it really sounds like they just get impatient with him and don't understand him. I can now see why he hates going there

    So anyway I'll forward the letter to our psych, probably go and see her next weekend if she can squeeze us in, and take it from there. GP said the psych would be better able to see any major warning signs.

  6. The Following User Says Thank You to SAgirl For This Useful Post:

    DT75  (10-10-2015)

  7. #65
    Join Date
    Sep 2005
    Location
    Perth
    Posts
    8,544
    Thanks
    1,351
    Thanked
    2,307
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 posts
    I'm not going to comment on if I think your son is on the spectrum , I'm not qualified to do so. I just want to say my perfectly normal ds exhibited a lot of the behavior you have described ie not really having a best friend , being fixated on objects , having multiple meltdowns etc etc.

    But as for the centre if your child is unhappy going there I would find a new one. It must be frustrating to keep finding new centres but I think it will be worth it.

  8. #66
    Join Date
    Aug 2010
    Posts
    4,094
    Thanks
    1,386
    Thanked
    1,357
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 posts
    Hi all, need some more advice please.

    So on Friday I received a letter from DS daycare, from the centre leader, about his behaviour, and her 'assessment'. Basically after she said she would 'assess' him, I asked her to just put her findings in an email so I could forward it on to our psych.

    So anyway, it's taken me all weekend to come here and vent because I am beyond furious.

    I'm annoyed at what she's written and I'm annoyed at the way she's written it, not only does 80% of it sound inaccurate, but it feels even more so, like she is singling out my child and making her own little 'case study' on him.

    I've read the letter over and over trying my best to see where she is coming from, and I just cannot and do not agree with most of what she's written. Whatever 'issue' is displayed while he's at daycare, seems to be magnified in her brain.

    Look, I get it, it's their job to point out issues and help. I appreciate that, but honestly, this letter is utter bull****. Her letter is patronising and condescending and makes out (in certain paragraphs) that my DS is like severely delayed or like there is something really wrong with him where he walks around in a daze and doesn't know what's going on. I can't even put into words how I feel.

    DH and I have observed DS very closely this weekend, NONE of what she has written has been displayed in any way shape or form, I've even let friends read the letter and they also completely disagree (and I know they would be honest).

    I am realising more and more why DS hates going to that daycare and today I'll be ringing around other centres to see if they have spots for next year.

    Another thing I am starting to wonder, about the centre leader is her motives in all this. She is fairly new to the centre, she started out as an educator and then when the old centre leader left, she got promoted. Since then (about 2/3 months ago) she has made quite a few changes, which I saw immediately (so obviously trying to make an impression in her new role) and I feel like she feels she needs to do more so has decided to use my DS as a little 'project' or something. I don't know. Half the things she has written about him don't even sound like she had the same child.

    I was going to give some examples buy reading her letter makes my blood boil! 😡😡😡 and then when I go and try and copy and paste some of it in here, I realise that I may as well just copy the whole darn letter and for privacy reasons I'm reluctant.

    Do I write back to her? Do I make a complaint? Do I talk to the psych first and get her opinion? Do I trust my gut?

    Argh. Help please

  9. #67
    Join Date
    Sep 2009
    Posts
    4,670
    Thanks
    1,961
    Thanked
    2,573
    Reviews
    6
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 posts
    I wonder whether you could give the letter to the psych and get them to talk directly to the centre leader?

  10. The Following User Says Thank You to amyd For This Useful Post:

    SAgirl  (12-10-2015)

  11. #68
    Join Date
    Aug 2010
    Posts
    4,094
    Thanks
    1,386
    Thanked
    1,357
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 posts
    Quote Originally Posted by amyd View Post
    I wonder whether you could give the letter to the psych and get them to talk directly to the centre leader?
    Yeah I have forwarded it onto the psych but I am not sure if she's read it yet. We are hoping to see her on Friday.

  12. #69
    Join Date
    Oct 2010
    Posts
    9,893
    Thanks
    3,054
    Thanked
    5,860
    Reviews
    2
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 posts
    Awards:
    100 Posts in a week
    I would definitely be getting in touch with your child psych, providing them with a copy of the letter and getting their honest opinion.

    Whatever the case, I would be pulling your DS out of the centre and starting fresh somewhere else. You have lost confidence in them, and I don't think this can be repaired.

  13. The Following User Says Thank You to Mod-Degrassi For This Useful Post:

    smallpotatoes  (12-10-2015)

  14. #70
    Join Date
    Mar 2015
    Posts
    3,965
    Thanks
    706
    Thanked
    2,303
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 posts
    Quote Originally Posted by Mod-Degrassi View Post
    I would definitely be getting in touch with your child psych, providing them with a copy of the letter and getting their honest opinion.

    Whatever the case, I would be pulling your DS out of the centre and starting fresh somewhere else. You have lost confidence in them, and I don't think this can be repaired.
    This. Time for a new centre.

    I do think offering an 'assessment' is out of line - she has no qualifications for this.

    I would reply to her though. Just thank her for the report, decline her offer of assessment and advise that the information is being forwarded to the psych.

    Tbh I don't know if there is much use advising that the GP and others think there is no need for assessment - she just seems to have one thing in mind. So just politely ignore until you can move your DS.

  15. The Following User Says Thank You to twinklify For This Useful Post:

    babyno1onboard  (12-10-2015)


 

Similar Threads

  1. Year 5 Issue
    By PomPoms in forum Preschools and Schools
    Replies: 11
    Last Post: 22-05-2015, 09:36
  2. Sleep issue, again....
    By heartstringz in forum General Sleeping & Settling Chat
    Replies: 24
    Last Post: 18-02-2015, 19:09

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
free weekly newsletters | sign up now!
who are these people who write great posts? meet our hubbub authors!
Learn how you can contribute to the hubbub!

reviews
learn how you can become a reviewer!

competitions

forum - chatting now
christmas gift guidesee all Red Stocking
Pebblebee
Parents spend hours looking for things they need NOW. The keys, the remote, darling daughter's treasured teddy. Stop wasting precious time looking & start finding with Bub Hub reviewed Pebblebee Smart Tag. Simply attach a Pebblebee and find it fast.
sales & new stuffsee all
CarmelsBeautySecrets
Growing your own natural nails is easy. Years ago, I devised a simple and very effective technique which really helps boosts the nails' growth in as little as three days! And most importantly keeps them that way.
featured supporter
Cots on Bubhub
Looking to buy a cot or bassinet? :: Cot safety checklist :: Local or online nursery shops
gotcha
X

Pregnant for the first-time?

Not sure where to start? We can help!

Our Insider Programs for pregnancy first-timers will lead you step-by-step through the 14 Pregnancy Must Dos!