Well not an issue as such, just a follow up from my last thread about my DS 4 getting bitten by another child. So that's all fine, but yesterday I was specifically pulled aside because apparently DS cracked it and threw a tantrum because he asked for the teacher to make him a paper plane, so she said yes, just go and get me some paper, so he went up got the paper in his hand but then cracked it because he wanted help getting the paper and she refused.
Now I totally get that got school he needs to do these things for himself, we are trying so hard with him at home, we have NEVER had any issues with his behaviour at daycare, he's been going for almost 3 years and has been in 3 different centres. We do have these issues at home, him not wanting to do stuff on his own, eg feeding himself, putting shoes on, undressing, fetching or looking for toys etc, but things at home have drastically improved with all these things. I still help him on occasion because he asks nicely and I know that it's his way of getting my attention and feeling loved. He sees us do all these things for his little brother and there is some jealousy there.
Anyway yesterday I felt so bad for him because ever since the other child bit him, it honestly feels like they think DS is the problem! I don't actually understand it. I almost feel like they are.... I can't think of the right words, but like blaming him for any issues and making him out to be the bad kid. He's not. Never has been. He's had two minor episodes in 3 years... Now suddenly I'm being pulled aside and told how I have to stop doing things for him at home and that because he wrote one letter of his name at an angle (F) that they have 'concerns' about him. Apparently they were doing names on the board and he got excited saying he could write his name, then they said ok come up and do it, so he went up and then asked for help, to which they apparently helped the first time then he still wanted help again so when they said no he cracked it again.
He's a bit shy sometimes and he sometimes doesn't want all the attention on him, I'm not surprised he changed his mind while he was up there and wanted help.
Then they practiced writing his name on paper and apparently he cracked it again saying he couldn't and didn't want to.
They showed me the writing he did do and it was bloody awesome. I told them he's only been writing his name now and then with chalk for the past 2 months so when he writes the F at an angle I don't correct him because I'm so proud he actually does it in the first place.
Then all of a sudden, the head of the centre throws in that she think OT would help him which I am not opposed to at all, but then she says 'oh and the place that does the OT is having a parent meeting for kids with ASD'
Umm well my son doesn't show any signs of having ASD and no one has ever come slightly close to thinking he may have it, so why is she suddenly throwing that around!?
It just really upset me, it feels like they suddenly have 'all these issues' with DS but in actual fact it's minor stuff and not an ongoing problem at daycare.
Anyway this is just a vent and I don't know how to handle it.