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    Default Sleep School - how long for improvement?

    We just got back from sleep school and while it felt like we were making some progress, we are a long way from where we want to be. DS is really fighting to go down, especially at night. Last night it took 3hrs then he woke 3 times overnight. We're trying not to feed him at night and just offering water (he was feeding 2-3 times overnight and we managed to get it down to once but trying to stop altogether).

    How long did it take for your child to show significant improvement? In some ways he seems much worse but I know that's because we're trying to change things and he's resisting.

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    I guess it depends on what methods you are using and how old your child is. When ds1 was 6 months we did some sleep training which involved controlled crying to get him to sleep and to resettle during the night and I would say by day 3 he was going to sleep within about 5 mins with little fuss and same for night wakings and within 2 weeks he was completely sleeping through and going to sleep without any crying.

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    Wow that would be amazing. We did 5 nights at sleep school and started doing hands-on in the cot but it wasn't working - he'd just keep trying to play with me or would stay awake to make sure I didn't leave. So we started leaving the room and going in to settle when he cried and leaving again (I think they called it responsive settling but I guess it's a variation on CC).

    He's 14mo and very stubborn as it turns out.

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    I got from rocking to patting to just resting my hand on him in a couple of weeks. Responsive settling/CC isn't really working for us. Then he got sick, and then teeth, and we went back to patting. We always make it to lightly resting our hand on his back before something upsets it and we get back to patting. I'm trying to do the gentle withdrawal method. Teeth, illness, or travel always interfere. I've never been able to just leave him and have him fall asleep by himself. He needs me there. I also have a stubborn one.

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    It's a bit of a blur now but I do remember it taking a couple of weeks for it to sink in. We also had times when things would go to sh*t again and we'd go back a couple of steps, but we were really consistent and DS would get back on track. We still had 1 or 2 wake ups during the night but it was better than the 5 or 6 it had been. Around 18 months it was like a switch was flicked and DS just became this awesome sleeper. Now at 2 all those really hard nights are a distant blur - it does get better!
    Don't be afraid to use the careline if you need a refresher or reassurance.
    Good luck!

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    I think the key is probably to stick with it and try to see it through. I know it's hard not to give in and do something the you know will work such as picking him up and rocking him etc as if reinforces the idea that if they just continue to cry they will eventually get what they want.
    I know it's hard watching and hearing them cry but I always figured that a tough few weeks was worth it so have a content baby that was sleeping through the night happily rather than a grumpy one as he was waking at least hourly and not able to go back to sleep. For us the method we used worked brilliantly but it could have been luck as with ds2 who is 3.5 months now I get the feeling he will be a bit more stubborn.

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    We will persist, it's just really hard and it's getting me down quite a lot. I know he can do it as he used to be a great sleeper. It's so frustrating.

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    I think the older your child is the longer it would take. I took my DD when she was 4 months and by the time we left she was sleeping through the night! Daytime sleeps took longer to sort, probably 2 weeks until we had significant improvement. Like PP have said we have had ups and downs along the way (she is now 2 and 4 months) but have always stuck to the advice from sleep school and got back on track within a week or two. Just keep being consistent and you should see improvement soon!

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    Well he went down much easier tonight! He complained a little but I only had to go in once and then he settled himself off to sleep. Progress! Hopefully the rest of tonight goes well...

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    @Cue how did last night go?


 

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