Ladies, I need to ask your advice. My EPU is booked for Monday, so all things going well we are aiming for embryo transfer on the following Saturday morning. This will be our first day 5 transfer, and as our previous embryos have pretty much all arrested by this point so there is a very real chance we will have nothing to put back come Saturday. My issue is that I have a wedding to attend that same afternoon/evening in another town. DH will be away for work, so I will need to go to the clinic, either have something transferred or get really disappointing news (alone) and then hop in the car by myself, drive to the other town (1.5 hours), attend wedding and reception and then drive home late at night (1.5 hours again). WHAT SHOULD I DO?! It is the wedding of a very dear friend, and I would SO love to be there, but I’m concerned that if I have just had a transfer I won’t want to be on my feet a lot, dance the night away etc. On the other hand, if I have not had anything transferred, maybe going to the wedding and letting my hair down would be a good thing to stop myself hiding under the doona and ugly-crying (which is what I will do if I stay home)? Or will I be too upset to keep it together at the wedding anyway? Gah! Decisions!
So I’m thinking my options are:
- Suck it up and go to wedding regardless, and just try and sit down a lot.
- Just go up for the ceremony and afternoon tea part, but not stay for the reception (so I can drive home and be in bed at a reasonable hour).
- Send my apologies for the whole thing and just explain to my friend why I can’t be there (I know she would understand, but I would still feel bad).
- Something else that I haven’t thought of?
For all my previous transfers, I’ve just gotten on with life as usual, but this is my 5th stim cycle and I’m at the point of not wanting to do anything in the TWW that I could look back on and question in the event that it doesn’t work out so I'm more hesitant this time.
What would you do???