@Krysta74 How are you goung Luv?? It's your follow up appointment today isn't it??
Hope you & DH are coping as best as you canxoxo
Thanks for asking after me. I'm not sure what is happening now to be honest. I was meant to do my US today but after Friday's result there is no need, so that appointment was cancelled.
I believe my OB and my Clinic will be ringing to discuss things some time this morning. I may or may not have to do another BT today. I think I'll end up having to go the D&C route as nothing is happening naturally. Aside from the bit of bright red blood on Friday I have not bled or had any cramps at all. Looks like my body wants to hang onto everything.
I am...resigned to it, I guess is the word. I'm desperately sad for what we have lost. And I am really angry, particularly at my husband, who seems to think now is the appropriate time to be discussing us both losing some weight. As if that is something even on my radar.
I don't know a lot about D&C's. Do you know if there is a cost involved in this? Is there a hurry to get it done? I know this will sound really petty, but on Thursday I have a much awaited hair appointment followed by lunch with my parents. I really need that time for me. I figure if I'm going to feel like sh!t I may as well look good and be with people who care for me. Do you think I could put off the D&C until next week, or is that unreasonable?
@Krysta74, if you put it off until next week, it may happen naturally in the meantime anyway. My first m/c I had a d/c but had it done at a private hospital and don't remember being out of pocket at all (that was back when I had cover) and the second one was going to be public but my FS and the hospital doctor both suggested that if I was in no rush to just wait, as each d&c can potentially weaken your cervix slightly. The first one I was in a rush as I was cycling with OE and getting old fast, but the second one I waited for it to happen naturally. If you're lucky it'll all just happen very soon and you won't have to make any decisions ! Depends how long it takes the progesterone and hcg to get out of your system I suppose... fingers crossed that your body gets itself into gear for you.
You have to decide whats right for you - I'm sure your OB can give you a ballpark figure on oop costs and a timeframe. Just be aware natural miscarriages can take a while.
Thinking of you love xx
Thanks Julie. Being that the sac was empty 2 weeks ago, and the US on Friday confirmed it was now 'irregular and starting to break down', I would have thought something was going to happen eventually. It's the waiting that just kills you. I just want it to be over so I can move forward.
We have no PHI so whatever happens will be through the public system. I tend to think that waiting another week might be ok, and then I can make a decision about how to proceed. I am not keen on taking the MC inducing meds - I've heard nothing but bad things about those. I wish it would all just go away.
I have read in books that women can't start grieving until everything has been passed. I don't know about that. I think I've been grieving for 2 weeks now. It doesn't get any easier as each day passes.
@Krysta74 I had mine done as a day surgery, ph covered the cost of the private hospital, I had to pay anaesthetist & the Dr, but received some $ back from ph & medicare. I had mine organised pretty quickly as there were no signs of it happening naturally (was told it could even be a month) and I just couldn't bear that. I kind of wanted to move on ASAP. Just see what your Dr recommends & do what's best for you. Thinking of you lovely xx
Thank you Julie, I just did this exact same thing a moment ago.
And for those waiting in anticipation...
I have requested the User name of Blossom74.
I chose this because when I first found out I was pregnant, I used to go and stand under the trees outside our house and as the blossom fell down on me I would quietly say "Oh, Blossom from the baby" like it was a little gift from him to me.
I chose the new name in his honor, so that I will never forget.
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