Last edited by Mama Mirabelle; 09-10-2015 at 20:21.
But also, if her friend was consistently being demanding and it became a one sided friendship, then distancing herself from the friend would be a smart idea. It's unhealthy and draining to remain in a friendship where the other person is all take and you're all give! You've gotta protect yourself and love yourself enough to walk away.
If you go into planning for a wedding demanding perfection, you are in for disappointment. And worse than disappointment, you will lose sight of what matters - the marriage. You still need your friendships once the wedding is done and dusted and it seems that too often people damage friendships.
Yes it's her day. But, she could have easily asked people not to wear pink in her invite, I had a friend ask people not wear the same color as the bridal party in hers and I put dress code cocktail/lounge on ours. It's pretty easy to let guests know on an invite what to expect.
The dress is purple. Yes sometimes the color is different in person but I highly doubt that color is going to be close to what she is wearing. If she's going to make such a big ask of somebody, the least she could do is pop by to double check the color.
There's a difference between wanting your day to be perfect and being unreasonable.
Mama Mirabelle (05-10-2015)
If she rocks up in a magenta pink shade I might understand. But if she rocks up in a dress nothing close to the colour of your dress after she saw a pic I would be ropable.
I don't think the OP sounds high maintenance at all. I didn't read the white party thread but WTF??? Who does that?? She's been very understanding, more than 90% of the rest of us would be! I think the consensus was most of us would nod and smile and wear the dress anyway.
OP has stated she is upset and waiting/distancing so that she does not say something she will regret.
I have no idea where you are seeing high maintenance from that.
All I'm saying is some people are unreasonable. That is their expectation of their day. In some people's eyes they are paying lots of money for you to attend, it's not compulsory you do. I don't think it's a great attitude to have either but you need to accept that that's what the bride/groom/party thrower want.
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