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    Well it's not really 'all about her' it's about celebrating the legal and emotional union of two people who are in love and want to spend the rest of their lives together.

    The me me me mentality is a new development in the last few decades. Brides in our grandmothers and great grand mothers times never acted this ridiculous. Nothing in life is perfect. When you start demanding your 'Special Day' be perfect, not only are you setting yourself up to be disappointed, you become a nightmare to deal with.

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    If it's really that important to her, she would put "no pink" on the invite, or come view your dress.

    I would wear the dress I have chosen, or not go.
    The only attire she can dictate is that of those in the wedding party.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Mama Mirabelle View Post
    No she's not normally like this and she is really stressed with the wedding as its coming up shortly, so I'm trying to give her the benefit of the doubt. Unfortunately this has really upset/ annoyed me (maybe that's pregnancy hormones) and I think it will affect our friendship as I really don't feel like seeing or talking to her at the moment. I'm just trying to keep some space so I don't say something I later regret. In the scheme of things I should let it go and I probably will but at the moment I'm pretty pi$$ed at the "it's all about me" attitude.
    I understand that. I had a friend act similar on a different thing and had to pull back for a bit. Once the event was over it was easier.

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    Quote Originally Posted by heplusme View Post
    It kind of is all about her..it's her wedding.
    It still a rather pompous attitude for the bride to take.

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    I think it's lame that your friend refuses to simply look at the dress.

    If it was my friend, I'd probably reluctantly play along by sourcing an alternative dress, but I would be quite peeved!

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    Quote Originally Posted by delirium View Post
    Well it's not really 'all about her' it's about celebrating the legal and emotional union of two people who are in love and want to spend the rest of their lives together.
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    Good point. It's all about the man and woman being together for the rest of their lives (touchwood). It's not (or shouldn't be) about what the bride looks like to the point where guests are made to feel uncomfortable. You don't see grooms acting like pork chops and making it all about them.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Mod-Degrassi View Post
    I think it's lame that your friend refuses to simply look at the dress.

    If it was my friend, I'd probably reluctantly play along by sourcing an alternative dress, but I would be quite peeved!
    OP: I would tell the bride I grabbed another dress (even though I hadn't) and then chuck a sickie at the last minute and stay home with a nice bubble bath and movie. At least that's what I would like to do.

    In 30 years time when the bride is fat and wrinkly she will hopefully look back and wish she had spent more time cherishing her friends and having laughs with them instead of focusing on her looks.

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    Quote Originally Posted by heplusme View Post
    It kind of is all about her..it's her wedding.
    To me my wedding was all about me - marrying my soulmate, about my husband - getting to show me how much he loves me, about my mum - watching her first child get married to someone they love, about my dad - getting to have that special moment of walking his daughter down the aisle, about my grandma - revelling in the admiration she got for making my wedding dress, about my IL's - getting to watch their son marrying someone who makes him happy, about my sister & best friends - getting to be bridesmaids for the first time and being shown how much they mean to me, about my guests - getting to share the joy of the day and have a damn good party!

    The only thing that I passionately INSISTED upon for the day was that everyone relaxed and had a great time! And they did.

    My wedding was about getting to share my joy with all the people I love, and them getting to have those memories and moments that they will cherish too...not about me getting all the attention and using it as an excuse to make demands of others.

    ...but maybe that's just me?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Frankenmum View Post
    To me my wedding was all about me - marrying my soulmate, about my husband - getting to show me how much he loves me, about my mum - watching her first child get married to someone they love, about my dad - getting to have that special moment of walking his daughter down the aisle, about my grandma - revelling in the admiration she got for making my wedding dress, about my IL's - getting to watch their son marrying someone who makes him happy, about my sister & best friends - getting to be bridesmaids for the first time and being shown how much they mean to me, about my guests - getting to share the joy of the day and have a damn good party!

    The only thing that I passionately INSISTED upon for the day was that everyone relaxed and had a great time! And they did.

    My wedding was about getting to share my joy with all the people I love, and them getting to have those memories and moments that they will cherish too...not about me getting all the attention and using it as an excuse to make demands of others.

    ...but maybe that's just me?
    Some people don't have the same values as others. I myself am laid back and wouldn't mind getting married in a paper bag. Friends of mine want everything their way and to be exactly what they envision. At the end of the day you are going to a party that someone else is organising. If you don't agree with what they have asked re holding a white party or requesting you not wear a colour of a dress you don't have to go. It doesn't mean they are high maintenance friends. If anything I think you sound a bit high maintenance letting something like that worry you to the point of breaking up a close friendship OP.

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    Quote Originally Posted by heplusme View Post
    It kind of is all about her..it's her wedding.
    That's just your opinion/definition of a wedding not a fact.

    IMO a wedding is not all about the bride. It's all about love and commitment.

    So celebrating the life long commitment of the couple and also celebrating love within our families and friends.

    Def a bridezilla in my books.

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