Hi again @Hopeful,
Oh honey, I am so very, very sorry for your loss. It is such a painful thing to go through and you really wouldn't wish it upon your worst enemy. I'm pleased there were no complications with the D&C, and yes, you're right - you do need time to heal, both physically and emotionally, before trying again.
Men seem to grieve in their own way, very different to us. I know that I like to talk things out, have a plan, and know how I'm going to move forward. My hubby, a man of few words, is the strong but silent type. He doesn't have much to say about anything and just keeps himself busy with work. I'm sure he hurts as much as I do, he just shows it differently.
It is also completely normal to be selfish at this time. You are grieving the loss of your baby and probably have a million emotions going through your mind. Sadness, of course, at the loss of your much longed for baby. Perhaps anger, that your body has betrayed you, and that you have been robbed of something so precious to you. Fear, that you may not ever get past this (You will! You'll never get over it, but you will learn to live with it!) Foolishness - how could I ever have been so stupid to think something so good could happen for me? All of these are completely normal as you navigate your way through your grief.
Like you, I know this pain now all too well. I had a bleed on Friday of last week and a scan showed my pregnancy had ended. My body does not want to seem to let go of it though, so I think I'll be heading down the D&C path shortly myself. It is a terribly painful time.
I wish you all the peace and healing thoughts I can muster @Hopeful. I really hope that your physical recovery is quick and that in time you might feel ready to try again. Until then though, please take care of yourself. Allow yourself this time to mourn your loss.