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    I just want you to know there are lots of people on BH who *are* taking you very seriously. You aren't alone, and we are all in your corner.

    I get there are some days when you deserve a parade just for getting yourself out of bed, let alone pack that nappy bag, get in that car/on that bus, listen to crying, lay your soul bare to a stranger, deal with an interrupted night. Lots of us get that.

    You're not a bad mother. What's passed is past, and you took a step today to seek help. We are all proud of you for doing so. Don't give up now.

    Have you spoken to your boss? Like really spoken about how tough things are at the moment? If you had been diagnosed with a serious physical illness and needed regular treatment/rehab, would you talk to your boss and ask for time off? Because I think you would. This is more important.

    A few posts back you alluded to the tragedies that can occur involving post partum women. I agree with you wholeheartedly, but I find this comment very worrying. Sometimes it's hard to tell how much your comments are dramatic and blowing off steam and how much they are deadly serious.

    Please - trust your boss. Talk to him/her. Or find an advocate in HR to support you when you talk to your boss.

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    Also one other thing - don't bother telling your GP that cbt/mindfulness didn't work for you, wait and tell your new psych that. That will help them come up with a therapy plan that will suit you. I'm the same, I'm way too cynical for meditation and other methods and I was upfront about that with my psych and she was very accepting of it and has said will approach it in other ways.

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    Quote Originally Posted by HollyGolightly81 View Post

    I know you must think I am horrible to you but I'm tough and straightforward because I have genuinely felt how you feel, I've made the same excuses in my head and have felt like I didn't deserve my DS, but I came out the other side. I'm hard on you because I know it's within your power to feel better.
    Making excuses/catastrophising/roadblocks are all part of anxiety rearing its head. I want you to know I have been there. It took DH begging me to see someone and I eventually did. He had to take me. I could not go on my own. And once I did it eventually just became easier.

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    Quote Originally Posted by harvs View Post
    A few posts back you alluded to the tragedies that can occur involving post partum women. I agree with you wholeheartedly, but I find this comment very worrying. Sometimes it's hard to tell how much your comments are dramatic and blowing off steam and how much they are deadly serious.
    I would never ever hurt my son i love him too much. I dont plan on hurting myself either but walking out isnt outside the realm of possibility

    Dh & i are having a talk tonight about where to go from here

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    Default How did you manage to get meds for anxiety??

    Quote Originally Posted by twinklify View Post
    Making excuses/catastrophising/roadblocks are all part of anxiety rearing its head. I want you to know I have been there. It took DH begging me to see someone and I eventually did. He had to take me. I could not go on my own. And once I did it eventually just became easier.
    I have as well.

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    I suffer from anxiety and depression. I see a psychologist weekly and am on meds. It's a daily struggle and so hard but you can do this. You are a strong woman. Please remember we are all here for you. Motherhood is wonderful but also very hard.

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    Quote Originally Posted by heartstringz View Post
    I would never ever hurt my son i love him too much. I dont plan on hurting myself either but walking out isnt outside the realm of possibility

    Dh & i are having a talk tonight about where to go from here
    I'm so glad to hear that :-)

    I hope it all goes well...

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    Quote Originally Posted by Louise41 View Post
    . Motherhood is wonderful but also very hard.
    It's bloody hard even for those who don't have anxiety, have a hubby that helps, stable income etc. I don't know how those facing additional challenges do it. The only way I could imagine getting through would be to lean on anyone and everyone for a helping hand.

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    Quote Originally Posted by heartstringz View Post
    I would never ever hurt my son i love him too much. I dont plan on hurting myself either but walking out isnt outside the realm of possibility

    Dh & i are having a talk tonight about where to go from here
    Your DH sounds like a good catch.. Let him help

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    How did your chat with DH go?

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