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    Quote Originally Posted by heartstringz View Post
    Its a bit silly if they don't work weekends/evenings, i dont know what people are supposed to do!

    I can talk to daycare but they are pretty full, i dont think they'll be able to fit him in. We cant afford it anyway, to pay for a day at daycare when i have the day off.
    Tell the psych your timetabling issue. I know with my ob (yes different specialty) but she used to see me on her day she did caesars at 7am. I'd have my appt with her just before she prepped for surgery at the hospital instead of her rooms during the day. Even with any other appts I have had this year, I have taken both kids with me or they have scheduled it before or after work. The mater in bris scheduled my ante natal mental health check with my growth scan so I could do both at the same time.

    Also talk to your daycare- they will take your son in if you need medical treatment. They always keep 1-2 spots free or will go over their numbers in an emergency.

    Use a babysitter if that's cheaper than daycare. Or as @Albert01 said, you need to decide what's more important. A 5-6pm appt with a psych is better for you long term than not going cos your ds needs his wind down. YOU are important. YOUR needs are important. YOUR health is paramount. Tell your dh to get home earlier on a certain day and put yourself first.

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    You're doing that thing again. Don't tell yourself you may as well give up because then you probably will.

    You are worth it. You are worth it.

    I've been trying to find help for years now. I understand how frustrating it is and how helpless you must feel.

    But you have to stop throwing up roadblocks, Hun.

    If you take DS to an appointment and he screams through it, and your anxiety peaks, guess what? It's only an hour. And if the result is you getting the meds you need, then surely it's worth enduring. You are paying them money - they have been around worse than a screaming baby I'm sure. They are professionals who understand that we can't all drop everything.

    Or go to one of those 6pm appointments. Accept that your routine will be thrown out for a night or two. It's worth it.

    Can you borrow some money off your mortgage? Or get a Centrelink advance? Failing that, can you use sick leave? Do you have private health? My PHI significantly diminished the costs of my therapy. If you have an established psych will she bulk bill one appointment for you?

    The small speed bumps are stopping you from regarding the bigger picture. Your life doesn't have to be like this.

    And I am going to ask you a tough question here, right out of the mouth of Dr Phil: 'what's your pay off'? What's in it for you to consistently decide it's too hard?

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    Quote Originally Posted by heartstringz View Post
    Its a bit silly if they don't work weekends/evenings, i dont know what people are supposed to do!

    I can talk to daycare but they are pretty full, i dont think they'll be able to fit him in. We cant afford it anyway, to pay for a day at daycare when i have the day off.

    Ill talk to dh on the weekend & keep looking for psychs that do weekends/evenings & if i cant find anyone i guess ill just keep doing what im doing. The mental health system in this country is a joke. Ive been asking for help since i was 12 weeks pregnant, no-one cares, so i might as well just give up. No wonder there are so many tragedies when this is how post partum women are treated.
    If you explain your circumstances to them they can likely make arrangements to get you an extra day if need be.

    I agree with hiring a sitter also, perhaps another SAHM looking for some extra income that also has a child of a similar age etc. I am not comfortable with strangers looking after my child but in this circumstance I would do it and I would prefer it to be another mum. That way you are only paying for a couple of hours instead of a full day.

    I get what a pain it may be, I don't drive and sometimes the thought of having to arrange plans around public transport and sitters etc gets overwhelming, but I just force myself to do it.


    Is there anyone that does phone appointments after an initial appointment in person?

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    Travel to the next town to another GP. My anxiety isn't as bad as yours I don't think, but I got meds easy. To be fair it was my GP of 10 years who knew I'd been exercising and doing lots of stuff long term, so it wasn't just like he was doleing out AD's. The change in my life has been amazing. Yes you should exercise, watch your self talk, use relaxation etc etc but sometimes people need meds. Some AD's are more suited to depression, others more anxiety. I'm on Cymbalta which is really good for anxiety and doesn't give you weight gain like the others.

    In your case I would keep seeing a different dr until you get that script.

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    I think getting help from a psychiatrist needs to be a priority. I would also suggest you find a GP you are happy with and stick with them, most will be unwilling to prescribe to someone they've only met for 10 minutes.

    I've struggled with anxiety and have a wonderful psychiatrist who has put me on medication. She mostly works with adolescents and has an interest in maternal mental health as well. I'm happy to share her details if Brisbane is convenient for you. Her office has heaps of toys and she is great with kids.

    Can anyone take DS for a couple hours? Can DH start or finish early to help out? My worry is you will just get sicker and sicker which may result in being admitted. Surely the sacrifice of 1hr a week or fortnight now is better than a week or more in hospital.

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    See a psychiatrist, that way you'll only have to pay the medicare gap. If medication is your primary interest (it would be for me) then you definitely don't need to see a Psychiatrist weekly. The Psychiatrist will ask you what you can manage, even if it's once a month or once every 3 months.

    If your DH takes one day off work and you see the Psych on your rostered day off then he can drive you to your appointment and he can look after ds while you're there.

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    Why don't you get a referral to see a psych near your work & go through your lunch break, then you won't have to worry about using your sick leave or paying daycare etc.

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    Quote Originally Posted by harvs View Post
    You're doing that thing again. Don't tell yourself you may as well give up because then you probably will.

    You are worth it. You are worth it.

    I've been trying to find help for years now. I understand how frustrating it is and how helpless you must feel.

    But you have to stop throwing up roadblocks, Hun.

    If you take DS to an appointment and he screams through it, and your anxiety peaks, guess what? It's only an hour. And if the result is you getting the meds you need, then surely it's worth enduring. You are paying them money - they have been around worse than a screaming baby I'm sure. They are professionals who understand that we can't all drop everything.

    Or go to one of those 6pm appointments. Accept that your routine will be thrown out for a night or two. It's worth it.

    Can you borrow some money off your mortgage? Or get a Centrelink advance? Failing that, can you use sick leave? Do you have private health? My PHI significantly diminished the costs of my therapy. If you have an established psych will she bulk bill one appointment for you?

    The small speed bumps are stopping you from regarding the bigger picture. Your life doesn't have to be like this.

    And I am going to ask you a tough question here, right out of the mouth of Dr Phil: 'what's your pay off'? What's in it for you to consistently decide it's too hard?
    I'm glad you're seeking help. Harvs is 110% right. Don't let the speed bumps derail your whole journey. You may never find an appointment that's at the right time, but that doesn't mean you give up. Keep pushing. Take the latest appt or earliest appt on offer and get DH to come home early/go in a little late. Short term pain for long term gain. You can't go on like his. It's not good for anyone for you to stay untreated.

    Like Harvs said, what's your pay off in letting the speed bumps become insurmountable? You CAN do this.

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    I don't understand why the GP won't prescribe you anti depressants. Some AD work for anxiety. Generally you should be able to get a script for a mild AD to stabilise you until you can see a specialist. Are you asking for a specified drug? Are you explaing your symptoms? GPs generally won't prescribe Xanax or Valium type drugs because they are highly addictive however ADs are pretty easy to get especially if you have seen a GP several times for your anxiety. I really find it odd that a GP would refuse ADs without a good reason. You can always go to your local hospital and tell them you can't cope you should be able to see someone and get some advice/meds.

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    Quote Originally Posted by skye76 View Post
    Why don't you get a referral to see a psych near your work & go through your lunch break, then you won't have to worry about using your sick leave or paying daycare etc.
    I get 30 mins for lunch. I dont drive. Its a 15 minute walk each way to the closest psych from work & no buses. It would be much more than my lunch break


 
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