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    Quote Originally Posted by Mama Mirabelle View Post
    Absolutely, I didn't mean to imply we should do what people did back then, just that it was so different back then and, for me anyway, I'm always thinking to myself gosh why can't she just play by herself like I did. Then I have to remind myself it's a very different time. I do try to implement some of the things FearlessLeader suggested though. DD is only 3 but she also gets told that it's free play time and if she asks/ whinges I say go and play I'll play with you in 20 mins or whatever. It doesn't always work but it's getting easier and I can at least (sometimes) have a cup of coffee in peace.
    I do the same. It is easier in many ways once they have siblings to play with. I never remember playing with my mum but I was the youngest of 4.

    I think there are valuable things from the past and I tell my kids I was often bored as a child too. Kids get so much laid on for them it's hard.

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    I don't think this is a new problem. I remember being bored often around the age of 10. I had spent most of my childhood doing whatever my siblings did up until that point but as we got older we spent less and less time together.

    Some kids might just thrive on more social activities?
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    I've had a tough time with DD these holidays. She's normally pretty good at playing on her own but maybe it's just her age, or extended periods being home with no breaks, but she seems to need me ALL THE TIME. She looks around at her toys & says "Mummy, what can I play with?" 😩 But I remember getting in trouble as a kid for saying I was bored when I had a room full of toys so I don't think it's a new thing either! I've been combating it by scheduling as many play dates as I can, getting her involved in chores and also getting her to start activities while I'm busy - "why don't you start some puzzles and I'll be there once I've finished the dishes". Often she forgets all about me and moves onto something else on her own.

    She's in daycare 2-3 days a week but doesn't do any scheduled activities yet. I'm hoping to start swimming & dancing this year.

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    My kids have all gone through stages like this (still do) so what works for my older ones is saying they can play on their own for (say eg) 10 mins, then 20 minutes etc at a time.. Say to them something like " can you go and build a car out of lego (or something like that to keep them busy-I jnow it's more harder with the two year old)..
    Then when the time is up ( you could use a timer) then they get to spend time with you doing things together.

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    Do you have friends/relatives with kids the same age...maybe you could have them over and have a coffee and chat with your friend while the kids play. I've got four kids and my eldest (11) and my youngest (almost 2) are the only ones that really entertain themselves. My middle two (6 and 8) do too but usually it's if/when I have to sit with them and do they want which is ok but there's some days I need that breathing space. My 8 year old got some art supplies for Xmas and she's loved being engrossed with those for hours which has been a Godsend.

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    I've got 3 kids aged 7, 5, 3 and my girls are way better at playing by themselves than my son. My youngest will play with her toys for hours. My eldest will play in her room with her toys, do drawing, write stories, play out the back, colour in, etc. but my son will only entertain himself for a limited time. He loves puzzles so will do them for a bit and will colour in but he's never really been into playing with toys. He's got Lego, Octonauts toys, paw patrol toys, minecraft toys but unless we are playing with him, he's not interested. He's not over scheduled. At the moment he only dies swimming lessons. He does footy when it's in season and he was doing karate but just couldn't fit in the required 2 lessons a week so we stopped.

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    In my experience it is a personality thing. My kids are 9 and 6. 9 year old DS has always been great at entertaining himself. He's introverted and is completely at ease in his own company. If I'm home just with him I barely know he's there.

    The flip side is DD. She has never been good at playing alone. As she gets older she is slowly improving, but ultimately she is highly extroverted and just wants to be with people all.of.the.time. I am introverted and will admit I find her hard work. I had to laugh the other day. She asked me when school is going back. When I said 4 weeks she was like, "I wish it was tomorrow." When I asked why she said, "I just want my friends and you know, everyone." Lol.

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    My DD is just like yours @teenie ... My husband and I are both more introverted than our little social butterfly.

    I often say she should have been born a twin or triplet!

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    Could there be some new activities/toys they might get interested in to keep them occupied?

    My 2.5 year old plays on his own happily, has done for awhile we just found we needed to find things he liked. Outside he has a couple of figurines he carries around, takes them down the slide, gets bits from the garden and makes "potion". Inside he will play for ages with his train sets, setting up the tracks and then arranging all his toys around them. He plays with his dollhouse, makes all the characters talk, pretends to put out fires with his fire truck etc.

    We don't have heaps of toys, we try to cull them and just have a few that I rotate if he gets bored.

    Maybe you just need to hit on the something to keep their interest up, it can be hard!

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    something I have never had an issue with as ds1 and ds2 have always played well together, they spend hours outside on the swings, climbing, cricket, playing cars, hide and seek, ipads linking to the same game. No advice to give really, just some ideas.


 

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