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    Default Help with 4yo bath time

    Ds2 4yo is terrified of washing his hair.
    It's getting worse and worse, he now trashes around like a cat, it's really upsetting. It looks like he's drowning but it's just either us just pouring water on his head in the bath whilst he is standing up, or under the shower, so there is no danger or near drowning episodes that could have scared him.

    I've tried everything and he just gets too super upset. I end up with bruises from the fighting and he probably gets bumps too.

    So does anyone have any contraptions that may help when pouring water over his head? I just don't know what to do.

    Ps he loves swimming at the pools beach & swim lessons... Quite happy to go underwater. It's just washing hair that's the issue.

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    My DS isn't fond of hair washing at all, and hates having his hair touched full stop (sensory issues/ASD).

    I use a face washer to gently squeeze water onto his hair and try to tilt his head back slightly to avoid getting water in his eyes. Then I quickly and gently shampoo before using the same technique to rinse out the shampoo.

    I used one of those buckets designed for washing kids hair once (the one with the soft flexible lip) and he HATED it!

    Hopefully it's just a phase he's going through. Just try being extra gentle and understanding until he gets comfortable with it again.

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    When we are bad sensory wise I add a little shampoo and conditioner to either a bowl water or the bath and make a bubble bath. Then I either get a face cloth or chux if he is being extra bad sensory wise. Than I dip the cloth in the water with the shampoo/conditioner and gently rub it on. He does get the water on his face so he doesn't struggle. I also prewar it coming by stating a body part and wash so it part of a bigger game.

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    DD (4) was terrified of getting her hair washed for ages- mainly due to her wriggling & getting shampoo in her eyes...which hurt & upset her.

    We now have a process where she holds a folded facewasher over her eyes, tips her head back & I tip small cups of water over her head. She still checks before we wash hair that "we won't get it in my eyes?" Lots of positive reinforcement & I tell her exactly what I'm doing e.g. shampooing, rinsing, "nearly finished".

    I think you can get jugs with a rubber lip that are designed to avoid getting water on the face.

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    We do the face washer thingy but that scares him just as much for some reason.

    Thanks for the replies thus far, will try them.. Keep them coming, surely something must work

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    Have you seen those shampoo rinser cups with a sort of indented side? They sell them at Baby Bunting. Haven't used one myself, so cant say whether theyre any good.
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    My DS is 4 and hates having his hair washed too. But don't think it's quite as bad for us, he just whinges and cries and carries on, doesn't really physically try to stop us.

    I don't think you can be too forceful as it's probably only going to make them more defiant. Can you get him to lie in the bath with his head in water? If I lay my DS down gently with my hand under his head, he loves to just lie there partially floating. It's not as good as a good scrubbing soapy wash but I find I can get a little shampoo on my hand and massage his head whilst partially in the water. In a really nice gentle way. Sometimes he lets me sit him up and wash his hair (although then he usually wants to do it himself - a tactic worth trying also! Give him the shampoo and ask him to wash his hair/a dolls hair/ your hair. Participation can work really well.).

    Maybe he has had soap in his eye before and the fear of it getting in his eyes and stinging is a factor. I think this is the problem with DS. He also loves swimming etc but hates water in his face in the bath for some reason.

    Another thing you could try (if haven't already) is take him to the store and let him pick out his own special shampoo - preferably one with a favourite character/theme ie Spider-Man, minions etc. might not be your first choice of brand, but giving him ownership over the shampoo might help too - stress that it's special shampoo that won't hurt his eyes etc.

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    This is the sort of shampoo rinser thing I meant: http://www.babybunting.com.au/4baby-...ser-white.html

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    I have found letting my DS wash his own hair really helps. He pours shampoo on his hand and scrubs his hair. It's not perfect and we started with a teeny amount if shampoo then build up on it. I think he hated feeling out if control with it all.

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    When I was little, I hated washing my hair as I was afraid the shampoo would go in my eyes and sting. My mum had this ring thing that went round my head that helped, maybe you could try it? Kind of like this... http://m.ebay.co.uk/itm/331131552329

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