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    I know this has probably been asked before but I'm stuck. What options do I have regarding who looks after my daughter while I birth. She is 2.5 years old.
    Family are out and it'd take too long to go into why this is! My closest friends live in other places and my mum's group friends are due around me or have newborns too.
    I'm starting to get really upset and stressed about this situation. I'm due 13 nov so i guess there is a one monthish window when I could go into labour.

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    Does she go to daycare? Is there a carer there you could ask to be on call for babysitting?

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    she goes 2 days per week. But I guess I worry as one or two of those days get really booked out.

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    If you don't have any suitable friend or family support does the hospital have any advise? We ended up dropping our 2 yr old to mil

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    possibly. My doula is going to ask around. I guess I would need to feel 100% confident the person can come over any time of the day in a month long period. It's kind of a big ask really

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    I was in this situation not long ago.

    We asked a carer from childcare if they were willing to be on stand by to come and mind our 2.5yo.

    We also got offers from people with babies.

    Honestly most people feel honoured to be asked or even considered. They'll be the first to know that a new person is on its way...! 😊
    When I was back home with my 2wo we offered to go and help some friends that were expecting their second. Obviously it would have been my husband going but we didn't mind at all. In those first few weeks you don't sleep much anyway!

    Also keep in mind that it will probably be a quicker labour than first time around.

    Having been in your shoes I know this can be extremely stressful, but trust me, people can't wait to be asked!

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    Also my centre was willing for us to drop our toddler even if it was on a day he isn't supposed to be in. Even if it's a day they are booked out.
    So it's worth asking.

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    My daycare also offered to take my girls on an extra day if needed. Seriously though, ask your friends. I would never hesitate to mind my friends kids in this situation and I'm 40wks with my 3rd now!

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    Daycares are allowed to go 1-2 over in emergency kind of cases. Speak to them and see what they're willing to help with. Also see if a regular carer is willing to babysit after hours if needed

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    See if you can find a family day carer in the area who is flexible with hours, because you need night time and weekend contingencies.

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