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    Does anyone have any tips/experience with violent behaviour in a 3yo and how to deal with it?? Is it normal behaviour?

    I.e kicking walls, throwing toys, punching dogs, lying on top of cat, hit me once and his new sister once. He has also started screaming at the top of his lungs all the time. It's so draining to be honest, we have tried time out, yelling, speaking gently and calmly and sticker reward for good behaviour. Any other ideas?? πŸ˜”

    Hoping someone can tell me it's a phase and he will grow out of it, he's such a sweet and funny boy otherwise.

    Eta. We've just had a baby so I'm aware this is probably not helping, but this behaviour started about 2-3 weeks before she was born and now much worse since she arrived. We are making sure he is getting plenty of love and attention.

    It also isn't in an aggressive manner it almost like he is hyper active and thinks it's super fun, he's not angry when he does it.
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    Does he play outside much ?? Is he occupied maybe he's just trying to drive you crazy

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    Yes he is getting plenty of playtime inside and out!

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    Is he eating anything different? Some additives can cause hyperactivity/behavioural problems and is he getting enough sleep?

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    Interesting thread....I wonder what foods may cause this behaviour.... My son has tantrums...

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    Quote Originally Posted by Elijahs Mum View Post
    Is he eating anything different? Some additives can cause hyperactivity/behavioural problems and is he getting enough sleep?
    No change in diet and he doesn't have much sugar or processed foods. Yes I think he gets enough sleep although needs to nap during the day more, he resists it most days.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Nafsika View Post
    Interesting thread....I wonder what foods may cause this behaviour.... My son has tantrums...

    These ones have been known to cause hyperactivity and behavioural problems and kids should avoid:

    Colours
    102, 104, 107, 110, 122, 123, 124, 127, 129, 132, 133, 142, 143, 151, 155, 160b (Annatto), 173, 174, 175

    Preservatives and examples of foods they are in.

    Sorbates -
    Cheese and cheese based products, dips, drinks.
    200, 201, 202, 203

    Benzoates - Soft drinks, cordials, medicine
    210, 211, 212, 213, 216, 218

    Sulphites - Dried fruits, cordials, juices and processed meats.
    220, 221, 222, 223, 224, 225, 226, 227,228

    Nitrates - Cured & processed meats (ham, bacon, hotdogs). They are prohibited for use in food for infants ( under 12 months). 249, 250, 251, 252

    Proprionates - Bread and bakery products 280, 281, 282, 283

    Artificial Flavours
    All – they don’t have numbers

    Flavour Enhancers – Flavoured chips, corn chips, pop corn, flavoured savoury biscuits, instant noodle sachets, vegetable spreads,
    620-625 Glutames inc MSG
    627 Disodium Guanylate
    631 Disodium Inosinate
    635 Ribonucleotides
    Hydrolysed Vegetable Protein (HVP)

    Artificial Sweeteners
    Aspartame 951

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    My DS is 3.5 and I have a 10 week old. Is he bored? Does he have excess energy? My DS improved out of sight with a trampoline and cutting down tv. I also think it's the age, 3 sucks! Everything is an argument and I found DS pretty aggressive. I truly believe the trampoline has helped and giving him loads of time outside.

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    To me it sounds like he is experiencing some new emotions (related to his new sibling) and this is the way he is expressing them. I'm not saying he doesn't like the new baby but he might just be feeling a whole heap of big feelings that he can't explain or make sense of.

    You might find this article interesting

    http://www.janetlansbury.com/2014/09...ing-struggles/

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    It sounds like he might be sensing your weakness (late pregnancy and now a newborn attached to you) and exploiting it for all its worth, cheeky little thing! My DD was just about to turn 3 when DS came along and she did the same thing. For her it was more cheeky things and not doing as she was told rather than the physical stuff your DS is doing. But given you said he's not angry when he does it, it sounds like boundary pushing.

    I don't really have much advice though, my DD got over it once she got used to DS being around and I wasn't as glued to the couch feeding him. All you can really do is be as consistent as possible with your discipline technique and ride it out.

    Good luck!


 

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