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    I keep hearing the phrase "Fake it till you make it" more and more these days and wonder if it works. For example as many know I have been in a downward rut spiral and i have a plan to fake it until I make so to speak by making a extra effort in my appearance and go out and do different activities and start trying to live life again but am unsure if it will help or I will just end up more miserable because I want to be at home in my frumpy day time pj pants. I know the only way to know if it works is to give it a chance but just wanted to hear others opinions on if it works.

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    Yep I think it does. If you are in a rut and constantly feed the negativity/downward spiral then it gets very hard to get out and make some positive changes to your life.

    Definitely "fake it til you make it" - get up early, have a good healthy breakfast, dress in nice clothes, do your hair/makeup and head out doing something enjoyable. It makes a world of difference.

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    I definitely think that little things like getting dressed, putting makeup on and even just going for a walk can help make you feel better. Before DD got sick with cancer and I was at work, I perfected the art of faking it 'til you make it. I was a receptionist and no matter what was going on at home I had to smile and be pleasant to everyone.

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    Yes it works. But it's also about mentally having a positive outlook. Everyday take a small step towards what you want. It doesn't mean you will not experience negative feelings or have negative things happen to you. It's how you deal with those things that is the key. maybe look into mindfullness it did wonders for me.

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    No, not for me.

    What workd for me is finding one/two things good/positive about each thing- ugh have to go shooping, omg raspberries on sale! (fave), etc.

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    It absolutely works. I get up, shower, do my hair and put make up on. I wear the nicest clothes I can afford and plant my smile on my face. The more I smile, the more others smile back at me and smiling is infectious. I don't have to fake my smile for long until it's genuine. And I feel so much better.

    Someone commented that I carry myself so much better these days and it's true. I stand up straighter, I smile and I am happy. Genuinely happy. But I did fake it for a very long time. My ex dh left me totally demoralised and pretty messed up. I was so miserable, I absolutely had to fake it, for a while.

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    I fake it every day. It's hard but life goes on and I have made commitments to ppl and I can't let them down as much as I want to crawl into bed and never get up . But if I did that I'd be letting my depression win and I won't do that

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    Assuming it will aline with the law of attraction ?

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    I am sure it does work. starting out with the right attitude is the best remedy for beating the blues. even if you have to force yourself to smile, see how quickly you will get a smile in return. positive energy attracts good energy. hugs, marie.

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    mostly I think its hard to 'fake it' constantly.

    generally I try to just find a few positives in my life and focus on how lucky I am ....

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