I would have liked people to leave us alone in the first week or two. It's such a massive adjustment and a special time and the number of people being quite pushy about wanting visits then coming for long stays, multiple people wanting long holds leaving me with a distressed overstimulated newborn...
I just wanted to hold my own baby after such a difficult journey to get him.
So my advice is, send love or delivery of flowers/food but save the visits for a few weeks in and don't all go at once.
And for gods sake if you or your household has been sick or isn't vaccinated have the decency to stay away.
In the context of the question - offer to visit later and ask when is good to come don't say "I'd like to visit on x day"