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    Default with a newborn ... what would you have liked your friends or family to do?

    I often see threads about people offering to help with a new mum/baby ... but some people just dont know what to do. they are so uncomfortable offering to help - and lots of people are a bit uncomfortable accepting help too.

    So ... when you have a newborn, what would like for others to offer to do for you?

    - cook/bring meals ?
    - washing ?
    - folding/put away clothes ?
    - dishes?

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    I would love someone to vacuum and mop. It's the one thing after I've had my girls that I couldn't do (c/section). I hate a messy floor and know it's the last thing on DH mind to do.

    Im personally fussy with my clothes so would rather no one help with that.

    A few frozen meals would also be awesome.

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    Food! Just bring food! 😆

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    Food and clean floors but to just do it not be asked to.

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    Default with a newborn ... what would you have liked your friends or family to do?

    Meals for sure. My sister did a couple of weeks worth for us and it was awesome to not have to worry about cooking every night.

    If you visit, make Mum a cup of tea instead of expecting her to wait on you.

    I'm also fussy about clothes, so no washing or folding as I have my own way of doing it, but any other housework? Go for it!

    I think the best thing to do is ask. And if in doubt, just take a casserole around. People may be uncomfortable letting friends/family do their dishes or scrub the toilet, but I don't think anyone would refuse food and it's really helpful.

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    Bring meals/food. It really annoyed me when people would come and visit and I had to cater for them - make/buy food, do lunches and coffees etc etc clean up after them while they sat around and held my baby. My mum was awesome though and came around most days to clean and do my washing and often brought meals with her too.

    One thing that I really wanted people to do though is: Go home!!! I love seeing you but please, go home now so I can feed the baby and have a rest. Lol some people just didn't get the hint

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    Definitely food/meals!

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    Yep clean the floors and bring food! Without asking first because of course I'm going to say no don't worry about it!
    Call before visiting and only stay a short time.

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    I actually wanted people to come ... I was going out of my mind with the 'aloneness' (though I love the peace now )

    but I would have really liked them to call before they came to ask if I needed bread or milk or anything picked up from the shops.

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    Quote Originally Posted by BH-KatiesMum View Post
    I actually wanted people to come ... I was going out of my mind with the 'aloneness' (though I love the peace now )

    but I would have really liked them to call before they came to ask if I needed bread or milk or anything picked up from the shops.
    I totally wanted people to come too, I just didn't want them staying for hours and hours in the early days/weeks. Eg: My bf and her DH came to my house a few days after he was born. They stayed for so long we had to give them dinner and then they still didn't go home for a few more hours DH has to politely kick them out

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