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    Quote Originally Posted by DrDrakeRamoray View Post
    I try and have a say and he still carries on. He leaves to go out or he says " you and the kids treat me like ****"
    Wtf??
    These are not the actions of rational person.

    Look, don't let him make you feel that his actions are ok, they are not, you know this, that's why you have reached out. Your mantra needs to be it is not ok.

    If you don't sort this situation for your kids, they will be damaged and a few years down the track, potentially, this is how your children could be parenting your grandchildren.

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    Quote Originally Posted by DrDrakeRamoray View Post
    I don't want to break up. But I don't want my kids to be yelled at and name called. I have threatend to leave and he says sorry.
    What do you want more? Your partner or for your kids to not be yelled at? If he doesn't stop quick smart you may have to chose.

    Could he be not taking you seriously because you are not clear enough with your instruction and/or because you don't follow through?

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    I see history repeating itself. You were abused by your step mother and now your children are being abused by their step father. If he doesn't change then even if you don't want to leave you might have to. The kids would already have fragile self esteem.

    He also sounds controlling towards you. Does he work?
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    Another thing I forgot, I have told him several times to back off. I've said I will do the discipining and he can back me up/support me. Then he says " fine I won't help! You can do it all on your own" " I won't take your kids to school or out" " I'll go out every night and leave you to deal with them!"
    He makes out as though they're such terrible kids! They aren't perfect. But if he stopped yelling and actuslly started listening to them he would realise they're good, smart kids. One or two need more direction than others.
    I feel as though I don't have a say in how my kids are raised/disciplined.

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    Yeah he works part time.

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    It just sounds like your back at square one. Sounds like the same situations you used to post about before you left their dad. It makes me sad for them and you.

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    Quote Originally Posted by DrDrakeRamoray View Post
    I feel as though I don't have a say in how my kids are raised/disciplined.
    You're the ONLY one who has a say in how they're raised/disciplined. They're your kids, not his. Only you can stand up for them and tell him to back off

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    Where on earth is your voice for your kids. Protect them for heavens sake. I can guarantee by what you have written all 4 will be better off without him in their lives. Please take action it's totally not on at all.

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    Quote Originally Posted by DrDrakeRamoray View Post
    I feel as though I don't have a say in how my kids are raised/disciplined.
    Then take that control back. You are their mother, fight for them. I'm normally an each to their own type person in parenting until kids are being negatively affected.

    Please be an advocate for your kids as others have said. Recognise the mistakes of the past and promise that you will always have your children's best interests at heart. That doesn't mean being a perfect mum, none of us are. But you are the adult. Speak up for them bc they can't!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Mod-Myztik View Post
    It just sounds like your back at square one. Sounds like the same situations you used to post about before you left their dad. It makes me sad for them and you.
    This. I don't want you to feel like we're throwing your past in your face but it honestly breaks my heart to read this.

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