@FearlessLeader those pieces of equipment don't bother me so much ( well money bars - can't see how you get up on other piece) as she would climb first two steps then not be able to reach and climb down.
ImageUploadedByThe Bub Hub1441975319.903294.jpgthis is the equipment she ( and others) were on. To the right it steps up, ( platforms) making it easy for little ones to climb to the top. Then it's all open
Anyway what I wanted to demonstrate with those pics is that they are two examples of times I wouldn't even look twice at my two year old attempting. I know they can/could do it. But parents always tut tut that I'm not standing next to them when they do that sort of thing- instead I'm generally on the other side of the park, fairly ignoring them.
Firstly, OP I think you sound like a super caring mum and at that age a really high platform would make me nervous too. You absolutely have to judge it based on your own child and your assessment of the risk involved. You did say that you let her play on her own on equipment that's not high off the ground so I don't think you're a helicopter parent - I have a friend that feels the need to hold her DDs hand on the most basic, safe equipment and I think she's a little over the top and definitely a helicopter parent!
Our local park has a high platform on the 'big kids' equipment. I used to stand next to it when DD was around 2/2.5yrs but once she was confident on it I let her be. If there are lots of bigger kids and I think it's a bit risky (ie high chance of getting knocked off) then I'll tell her to play on the smaller stuff until the big kids are done.
If I'm at a park/playground with friends we tend to sit back and let the kids run free. We always keep an eye on them and our kids know to come to us if anyone is hurt or upset or if a stranger talks to them.
Regarding comments about wanting to enjoy every minute, that's a beautiful sentiment but needs to be balanced with what's best for the child. I think hovering over your kids at all times and being with them every minute is more about what the parent wants than what the child needs. Parenting is not about proximity. Teaching children to manage their own risks, negotiate social situations, try (and fail!) at various challenges, and explore their world in their own way is such an important part of parenting. Letting go and giving them the space to do so is the hardest part of parenting!!
As I said, the parent is by far the best judge of what is appropriate for their child so do whatever you feel is best and try not to worry about what others are doing.
I have a 4yo and a 1yo so obviously the younger one can't tell me about his day. He's been having issues settling in, has had quite a few health concerns, and was an IVF baby so I understand the protectiveness you must feel. I just don't see how calling several times a day is helpful - I'd rather the carers spend the time focusing on my child rather than on the phone reassuring me. I trust that they'll call (and they do) if there's anything to worry about.
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