My first was also extremely cautious and I was guilty of not watching her one day and she fell badly off equipment and was bleeding. I saw it from a distance and ran over but felt awful. One of the mums who was helping her asked me if I was the nanny and I thought it was because I looked so young 😎 but then I realised it was because I was being so inattentive.
So I watched more closely after that. But then I had no 2, who was a daredevil but extremely capable so little by little I let go. No 3 is more like his sister and wanted me close but is more independent now and no 4 couldn't care less if I was even at the park let alone beside her. She smacks my hand away when I try and help her and tells me to "go!" When I try and stand close.
Every child is different and I'd trust the parents to know their own kids and their capabilities.
Pfft. When we are at the park, my kids would much rather play with the other kids than me!
I've got 3 kids, all close in age so can't follow them all around. I keep an eye on my 2 year old but I don't hover.
OP, it bothers you when parents don't seem to be watching their kids. It bothers me when other parents start watching MY kids and telling them to be careful or 'maybe wait for mummy' before they do something THEY perceive is too dangerous or difficult. This is my local park
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I'm completely confident that my 2.5 year old DD can do everything she can access safely and with confidence. The only time I really watch her is at the water play, because there are some really slippery rocks. She now won't go down that big slide by herself because so many mums have convinced her it's dangerous and scary. She's gone down it at least 100 times and never had an issue, but her confidence in her own abilities has been shattered.
I never tell my kids to 'be careful' I've seen them falter and freeze, start to look scared when I've said it in the past. I think it takes away the confidence they have in their ability.
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Those ropes are about 1.5m off the ground. She can get up there no worries BUT she also realises that she can't climb across that sort of thing on her own so she doesn't try. She can do this though!
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And this, even though this is DS at the same age
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Neither of them have ever had a serious accident in the playground, because they both know their own physical limitations very well. I know that's not the case for all kids, but they do- and it's partly because they've been given the chance to discover their limitations on their own
I hover over my two and half year old. BUT she has a disability and is not that stable on her legs so I have to. Just today under supervision at physio she fell backwards and whacked her head.
BUT....I yearn for the day (yes yearn! !) That she can do the slides and climb herself. I'll watch. But from a distance.
As for other parents. ..I don't particularly care as long as their kid is not being mean or a bully. If they are I wish the parent would supervise and intervene on those occasions.
To the poster who mentioned daycare and hovering because your child is a prem. My daughter has a syndrome and a heart defect..a very serious one. She goes to daycare. I never call (unless I'm worried about something).... I try not to hover, I want her to explore. I trust her carers.
This doesn't mean I don't love her.
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