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    Default Positive advice please - constant worrying about kids getting sick

    Hi, I need help from other parents as I have seemed professional help and it's just not working..... I constantly worry my children are going to get sick. There is not one day that goes by I don't think this.

    It all stems back to one of my children 4 years having 5 febrile convulsions in a matter of a few hours. We were 1st time parents thinking we are going to lose our child.

    So from then on and slight niggling of sickeness turns my world upside down. I go into melt down, i need someone with me I just cannot function. God help it if they get a temperature - I go full on into a panic attack. I can't breathe, cannot even stand up.

    It's awful - I hate it. I hate being like this.
    A mother should be strong for her children.

    What can I do to get this out of my head? I know kids get sick, I know they will have fevers (and they have had a few) but I just don't know how to control my thoughts.

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    Sounds like anxiety. You need to ask your GP for a referral to see someone.

    Check out beyondblue.org.au

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    I have, probably 6 sessions and it didn't work

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    I know this might sound odd, but would you consider hypnotherapy? I've had it for a needle phobia, and it definitely helped with the anxiety a bit - I suspect if I'd had more sessions, or done my homework a bit more it would have been more effective.
    Have you and your GP considered medication for anxiety?

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    That sounds really rough, hugs OP. I think your best bet is to get back to your GP or another provider if you're not happy with them, and ask them to refer you to another therapist or another type of therapy. I really think this is something you need to persist with professional help with.

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    Hugs. It sounds so hard. I agree that you need to go back to your GP and try and get some help. There are a lot of different therapies - everyone is different and sometimes it takes a while to find the right one for you.

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    Quote Originally Posted by mumsrulz View Post
    I have, probably 6 sessions and it didn't work
    What, specifically, didn't work?

    And how spaced out were the 6 sessions?

    It can take months and months to even make a start on something like this.

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    I agree with PP's, you need to seek help from a psychologist; a different one, if you feel the other one wasn't working.

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    I'm back. And I have had more of a think. I know its overwhelming. And its hard. I have anxiety. Mine is more 'general' anxiety but now I am pregnant I seem to be walking around with a panic attack 24/7. It's so draining. And you get anxiety thinking of the anxiety. But unfortunately this is something that just doesn't 'go away'. It is manageable. And if something isn't working - speak up. Ask for more help! In the meantime, as stupid as it sounds (and yes, I tend to roll ky eyes at myself) but you need to find a way to calm down. Breathing never works for me - I get dizzy, breathless and it just goes bad. Music helps. Distraction helps. Self talk (positive) helps me get through every moment. There is plenty of CBT strategies to try. I also think you need to talk about what happened. As hard as it is to even think about it you need to process it and understand it and accept it. Maybe medication can help you on your way? The first step is the hardest but I want to reassure you that it does get better. You can get help. And we can support you if needed.

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