So it's my mums surprise 60th birthday tonight and I'm really annoyed at BIL and his wife.
My family and DHs family have always done big celebrations together - so Christmas, Easter, milestone birthdays.
So I know it's on Fathers Day but it was the only way my dad could organise my mums surprise party as she said she didn't want a fuss made.
My BIL has said he and his wife can't come. The reason SIL is working. I know for a fact she isn't as she started maternity leave in Friday (she's 32 weeks).
So I'm firstly annoyed at the lie : excuse. Secondly even if SIL was working what's stopping BIL from coming!? Nothing!
My other SIL (DHs sister) also isn't coming. Her excuse they already paid a deposit for Fathers Day dinner elsewhere. I'm also a bit unsure if that's the case or it's an excuse.
My parents have always been so generous to all of DHs family. BIL and SIL invited my parents and brother to their wedding at the end of last year. My DH has gotten his brother out of financial pickles in the past.
When DH questioned his brother about not coming he said they had other plans and only found out about the party last week - another lie! They were invited 3 weeks ago!
Would anyone else be annoyed? It's not so much they aren't coming really but it's the lies about it. I'm quite upset about it to be honest.
I'm probably more upset about BIL because of the lies. I'm annoyed at SIL too but her DH is a father so it's plausible they've already organised Father's Day dinner. I guess technically BIL is as his wife is due with their first in 8 weeks.
I'm not sure, am I being unreasonable?