Condensed version- in laws will be having Xmas at SILs house. She's requiring a bit of extra support at this time so apparently we miss out. They also think they are doing us a favour.
Not sure if email was sent before or after these plans were made to avoid our feelings from getting hurt. DH told them to stuff their big lunch plans at beginning of December.
We live 20 minutes away but apparently it's all just too hard to catch up with us over the Christmas period as their hands are full.
Guess we will start our own traditions without them. It's just a shame the kids miss out, and DH feels completely rejected. Lucky for us my parents are very involved and can't wait to see the kids at Christmas.