I feel like most of the interactions we have are me nagging him, and him sulking and pouting. Arrgghhh!!! He's only 12.5. I've got a while to go before I see this phase out!
Is it worse during first year of high school? I'm wondering if maybe that doesn't help, as I'm constantly on at him about doing school work, and he's probably tired from school.
But for goodness sake it doesn't take much to not throw your dirty socks/shoes/schoolbag/tissues/etc etc etc on the floor and not pick it up. And then to carry on when I ask him to pick things up! And then there's the mobile phone/playing games issue for every second of the day, so I'm constantly yelling at him to get off his phone as well. Then, if looks could kill.... I'm always made out to be the bad guy!
It also doesn't help that he has mild Aspergers, so his social skills aren't great. It's hard to have a light hearted, spontaneous conversation with him. He doesn't like touch and affection. He's not a 'fun-loving' person, he is very serious.
With my other kids I can have one on one time with them, being spontaneous, chatting, laughing, cuddling. But that doesn't really work with him. So what could I do to have good one on one time? We don't really have any mutual interests. Even if we did, he's not very flexible, so he doesn't really like doing things that don't specifically suit him.
Also having one on one time at all is difficult as then I'd need to get the other 2 babysat, so it's few and far between unfortunately.
It's not fun. He also enjoys tormenting his siblings, which really doesn't help the household tension.
Please don't quote, I may delete parts later, as I'm feeling the mother-guilt....