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    Your point your friend made about how at least he has a job and doesn't hit you really got me. That's an absolutely horrible way to look at your situation.

    Women should never be made to think we should have such low standards for what we expect in a man.

    Your husband doesn't respect you, he clearly doesn't love you. These are two of the most important things to expect from a marriage. He may not be beating you but he is still abusing you by controlling your money and what you do with it, by controlling what you do with your time, he is emotionally abusive when he throws a tanty because you want to do something for yourself outside of working 2 jobs and looking after the house and kids while he just has 1 job???

    So no you aren't being unreasonable to expect more - you deserve more as do your kids. Please, please, please contact centrelink and find out what you're entitled to and work out some numbers around what you need to live off etc and make a financial plan to leave. You're clearly not happy, you shouldn't be married to someone you hate either.

    I wish you all the best and I hope you can leave sooner rather than later, you are in a domestic violence relationship.

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    There's so much I could say but all I'll say is this: You deserve better.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Apple iPhart6 View Post
    There's so much I could say but all I'll say is this: You deserve better.
    Agreed. OP your relationship doesn't sound healthy at all. Life really is too short to spend it being miserable. You deserve all the happiness in the world.

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    agree with everyone else. he sounds like a bully who has zero respect for you or compassion towards you. his attitude sounds like it fell right out of the 1950s. as others have said, a marriage should be a partnership built on kindness and respect and be on equal footing. life is too short to keep feeling the way you're feeling. good luck

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    You are not wrong to be expecting more from a husband. I'm sorry that your DH thinks this is acceptable.

    However I also think you need to reconsider your plan. Your teenage daughters really need you to lead by example. Would you be happy for them to be in a marriage like yours? I know it's soooo much easier said then done but please show them that it is not ok to be treated this way. Put yourself first and your daughters will learn so much about self respect and strength. Good luck. X

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