List of complaints....
If I ask him to do a single thing for the children, like drive them somewhere, he pitches a fit like it will kill him!
He says he shouldn't have to do anything around the house because he works full time. (I work 30 hours a week at my paid job)
I have access to money, but get in trouble when I spend "too much" and we often have to do a week of bakedbeans on toast, which I don't mind, but he complains.
He complains about the food I cook all the time! I recently got organized (I thought) so I could get to the gym a couple of nights a week. I want to start looking after my health and need to lose about 20kgs. I pre-cooked some meals, curries and pasta, and put them in chinese containers in the freezer so he and the kids could feed themselves on nights I wanted to go to gym. He made me feel like I was commiting abuse!
When the kids were younger, if we ever convinced him to come to a family friendly activity or school event, concert, award night etc, he would act like a bored teenager and make the rest of us miserable, so I stopped expecting him to go.
He only wants to do what he wants to do, and we got used to that.
Whenever I would complain to my friend (who I don't see anymore) she would say, "At lease he has a job and doesn't bash you". That is true.
When I try to talk to him about anything...anything at all...he either rolls his eyes and walks away or explains to me why I am wrong.
He makes snarky, mean comments at me under his breath.
He earns twice as much as I do, and the girls are still at school, which is very expensive, even though it is a public state school. We could not even afford to rent a house on my wage.
So, as I tell my friends, "I am waiting for the kids to leave home and the dogs to die" then hopefully the house will be worth more and we can sell up and I can move on.
I am okay with that, the problem is that he has recently become very needy. He often told me we are poor because I don't make enough money, so I started a home business. I therefore work 30 hours a week in retail and spend the rest of the time working from home as a seamstress. I also take the kids to their after school activities and appointments. My eldest is have trouble with back pain at the moment and she has had to go for tests etc. I have always done all this but now that I also want to work on my own health (I go to counselling and try to get to the gym) he is getting all nose out of joint because I am not at his beck and call when it suits him.
Sorry for the lengthy rant.
I had to stop there or I would go on forever.
any comments welcome.