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    It's slightly off topic but I think I need to share this one and get it out of my system.

    I am undergoing fertility treatment and during the process I met a lovely lady whose ivf just failed. We catch the train together to the morning blood tests some days. Today was such a day.

    We ended up in one of the quite carriages but didn't realise it and my lovely friend had a mental break down and told me how upset she is about the ivf failure and so on. It's totally understandable.

    The woman sitting behind us (she can clearly see my friend was struggling and could clearly hear why) told her to shut the f... up! Seriously. The woman was in her 50s.

    I understand we were not supposed to talk in the carriage but there is no need to be rude. You don't tell anyone to shut up. If you have something to say then you can do so nicely. I would not have had an issue as such if the woman were to say "please keep it down" in a nice way but "shut the f up"???

    Needless to say my friend got really upset after that and I feel terrible that had to happen to her. As if infertility isn't enough to deal with.

    I am just shocked...

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    Why are you not allowed to talk in the carriage? Very rude I reckon. What business was it of hers? Are we missing a piece of information? Did she know the lady? Seems odd to just blurt obscenities out at a stranger for no intended reason...

    She must have been having a bad day is all I can think and just snapped...

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    There are designated carriages where you keep conversations to a minimum and no she didn't know the woman. I was shocked.

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    How rude! I have learnt over the years on bub hub that you never know someone's circumstances so to try to give them the benefit of the doubt, especially for insignificant things like this. I hope you and your friend have success very soon.

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    Maybe that person was having a bad day as well, and after going to a quiet carriage to chill out, got sick of hearing all about it. Sounds like there was a bit of bad manners all around IMO.

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    The conversation was not planned. To explain this: my friend just broke out in tears out of nowhere (maybe something she read on Facebook?) and yes she wasn't very quite but she didn't scream or anything. I would have acknowledged if the lady would have nicely pointed out that this is a quite carriage as I do this sometimes myself but to tell my friend to shut up when she was clearly in distress was wrong. She went on huffing and puffing although we had already stopped the conversation but because my friend was crying. The woman was well groomed and the funniest thing is, she answered the phone 20min later herself and discussed work issues with what I believe was one of her employees are assistants.
    I agree though who knows what she has been through...

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    Wow. Who cares if it were a quiet carriage. Someone was distressed and could not help but break down. I don't know about anyone else but if I'm ugly crying then there is a good chance it is needed. Unless they were yelling the conversation out then I can not see a problem with a bit of a debrief to calm the break down. No reason at all for that other lady to behave the way she did. A bad day does not warrant "shut the f up", maybe "excuse me, sorry to interrupt but this is a quiet carriage."

    One bad day does not excuse bad manners like that. Why does her possible bad day override someone else's bad day. Why can't they both have a bad day and mind their own businesses.

    I also have never heard of quiet carriages.

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    I wouldn't tell a crying, distressed woman to 'shut the f up', quiet carriage or not. Disgusting way to speak to someone.

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    Telling someone to 'shut the f***k up' is just a disgusting way to speak to anyone. I don't care what is going on in her life, there is no excuse for that rudeness.
    If she was so annoyed by the crying she could have moved seats.

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    Wow I think the woman is a grouchy old b**** and how insensitive to say something like that to a person having a breakdown. I would have been inclined to tell her exactly that!

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