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Can you describe the problems explicitly? That might help in offering advice. Is he crying, anxious, aggressive, mutism, etc?
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He does show remorse afterwards and they don't believe it's malicious, but perhaps something he is doing when overwhelmed and his first reaction is to lash out?
I'm only going off what I'm being told. He is generally pretty good with his younger brother, and if he does try to hurt him we generally see a reason for it...ie taking a toy off him etc.
They have also mentioned he doesn't like getting involved in the larger group (for example when they all come together to sit on the mat in a circle). Apparently he gets himself quite worked up about it and gets very upset if they try to make him sit with the group. He usually ends up helping one of the teachers do something else instead.
Let me start by saying I think it's great that your DS's educators are being proactive in reporting their concerns and observations to you. I would 100% proceed with seeing a paed to explore these concerns.
I think 3 is an age where it becomes more obvious when your child isn't developing and behaving in a similar manner to their peers. This was the case with my DS, who was formally diagnosed with ASD last year.
Get a referral for a paed and make an appointment (it can take months to get in, so the sooner the better). In the meantime, start noting down his more unusual or troubling behaviours at home, even filming them. Ask the daycare to put their concerns in writing so you can take it to the paed. The more information you can provide will make it easier for the paed to see the full picture.
Whatever the case, and whether or not you get a formal diagnosis or not, the earlier you get him the help he needs the better. Sounds like you are totally in the same mindset, which is great.
How is it all going with your DS now you have a diagnosis? (If you don't mind me asking)
At the start of the year he was approved for funding through the NDIS, so we have an OT and speech therapist come to our house fortnightly for sessions.
In addition to this, he goes to mainstream preschool one day a week (hoping to send him 3 days next year) and goes to early intervention classes twice a week through a local primary school (it's a small class of 5-8 children and is run like a kindergarten).
I'm grateful that we still have all of next year to continue working on the areas he needs help with before he starts primary school. I feel that socially he's well behind his peers - he has a playful and happy demeanor, but he still doesn't 'get' the fundamentals of conversation. He only occasionally answers questions and can be difficult to engage in activities not of his choice. He is also quite bossy at home Still, he has come a long way and he's improving all the time.
One particularly cool talent he has is reading - he taught himself and has been reading words since he was 3. He's now 4.5 and competently reads books and pretty much any text he sees
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I think it's great the educators are getting him assessed and tbh your mummy instinct of him "just needing more time to settle" is not incompatible with an assessment. The assessment will (or won't) rule out underlying conditions causing the aggression. If the assessment comes back with no underlying condition then you can look at supporting him more emotionally during this difficult transition phase. So I would look at it as: the assessment will confirm your mummy instinct that it's just a reaction to the massive changes and he just needs a bit of extra emotional support right now. Good luck.
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