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    He is going to be labelled the naughty kid and most kids who get that label then feel they should live up to it. Anyone who takes the time to know him properly ( librarian, last years teachers, friends parents, soccer coach etc) knows he is not a naughty kid.

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    Quote Originally Posted by musicalmummy View Post
    The issue is that it is inconsistent and I have asked for help with my son on numerous occasions from not only the teacher but also the school counsellor to then be fobbed off, told my son is fine then he's constantly issued green slips. The teacher tells me she can tell he is anxious and is acting up for attention and is never the instigator . She also agreed he needs to see the counsellor. My son is no angel by any means but he's also not coping and I'm at a loss.
    Have you told them exactly this? If not then make and appointment with the teacher or AP and explain this. Continual "green slips" will not help a kid who is just getting them dished out all the time. He needs a positive personalised behaviour plan which he is involved in creating.

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    Yeh I spoke with his teacher already and she reckoned she had some positive thing in place but I've never seen it and my son has never heard of it. I'm going to make an appointment to see her tomorrow. She is also head of year one so has a lot of time off and he also is not coping with the inconsistency of teachers. Not great for an anxious child who thrives on routine and stability. He's extremely smart (not just saying that but he is a very cluey kid) and is bored very easily and needs to be active so I've even asked her to discreetly keep him active (sending on jobs etc) but she hasn't. We've also identified a friend who she has even recognised as a very bad influence so tells me she keeps them apart but then I see them doing an errand for the teacher together. As if that isn't setting them up to do something silly together.

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    Sorry but I'm really going on a rant here lol.
    The other day I was called to do a casual shift at a day care centre.(this is off track a bit). It was my first day and the first thing staff did was tell me the naughty kids. Already I had my guard up then. But then I watched and realised no they aren't naughty they just aren't guided properly or treated with respect. In that day I met a beautiful boy who I was told was a naughty kid. He made my day watching him smile and laugh and follow all directions I gave him. He told me he likes me. I told this to the staff and they were all shocked saying how naughty he is. Classic case of a child being labeled then Ost staff treating the label not the child

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    I think the list is fine. All of the negative behaviours are pretty standard as not being accepted in schools everywhere. The community even.

    I truly think the issue seems to be more that you aren't getting support from the school. If it were me I would be demanding a meeting with the deputy or principal and asking WHY they are not supporting your son and supporting you to support your son. It certainly sounds as though he has some issues that need to be ascertained/diagnosed/dealt with professionally and sometimes with documented evidence of this you can gain better access to support - whether it be accelerated learning or in class support for behaviour. I wouldn't bother with the teacher as she sounds like she's all talk and putting him in the too hard basket. Good luck with it all, it must be stressful.

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    Quote Originally Posted by musicalmummy View Post
    Sorry but I'm really going on a rant here lol.
    The other day I was called to do a casual shift at a day care centre.(this is off track a bit). It was my first day and the first thing staff did was tell me the naughty kids. Already I had my guard up then. But then I watched and realised no they aren't naughty they just aren't guided properly or treated with respect. In that day I met a beautiful boy who I was told was a naughty kid. He made my day watching him smile and laugh and follow all directions I gave him. He told me he likes me. I told this to the staff and they were all shocked saying how naughty he is. Classic case of a child being labeled then Ost staff treating the label not the child
    This sucks. Labelling kids sucks. I have never in over 15 years in education seen a child that fits squarely into any "naughty" label.

    I have no doubt my boy will be labelled this at some point.

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    Quote Originally Posted by musicalmummy View Post
    The issue is that it is inconsistent and I have asked for help with my son on numerous occasions from not only the teacher but also the school counsellor to then be fobbed off, told my son is fine then he's constantly issued green slips. The teacher tells me she can tell he is anxious and is acting up for attention and is never the instigator . She also agreed he needs to see the counsellor. My son is no angel by any means but he's also not coping and I'm at a loss.
    Honestly the very best thing you can do is to get him seen by counsellor outside the school system. Go to your go and a referral to a counsellor and a developmental team. That way when you can get help for him. Don't wait on them to organise it. If you think he needs it than do it. Earlier the better.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Acadaca View Post
    I think the list is fine. All of the negative behaviours are pretty standard as not being accepted in schools everywhere. The community even.

    I truly think the issue seems to be more that you aren't getting support from the school. If it were me I would be demanding a meeting with the deputy or principal and asking WHY they are not supporting your son and supporting you to support your son. It certainly sounds as though he has some issues that need to be ascertained/diagnosed/dealt with professionally and sometimes with documented evidence of this you can gain better access to support - whether it be accelerated learning or in class support for behaviour. I wouldn't bother with the teacher as she sounds like she's all talk and putting him in the too hard basket. Good luck with it all, it must be stressful.
    It really is stressful. I think about it every minute. I also worry that a school the size it is he will be lost in the system. He's one of about 120 in his grade and one of 900 in the entire school.

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    Quote Originally Posted by LoveLivesHere View Post
    Honestly the very best thing you can do is to get him seen by counsellor outside the school system. Go to your go and a referral to a counsellor and a developmental team. That way when you can get help for him. Don't wait on them to organise it. If you think he needs it than do it. Earlier the better.
    I'm on to that already. Seeing dr tomorrow and will get the referral. Have been prewarned I will have to put my foot down but am prepared to do that

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    Quote Originally Posted by musicalmummy View Post
    I'm on to that already. Seeing dr tomorrow and will get the referral. Have been prewarned I will have to put my foot down but am prepared to do that
    I have never had to put my foot down to get one. In fact you can self refer to see the public developmental team in my state. You shouldn't have to many issues getting a referral.
    Wishing you all the best.


 

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