I need a bit of advice regarding my almost 4 year old DS. He has always been an amazing sleeper and I new we would end up having some issues but it is getting ridiculous now.
It started a couple of months ago. He would wake up in the middle of the night and try to come to bed with us. I was steadfast and put him straight back to his bed and for a while it worked, I would tuck him back in (had a feeling it may have been cold waking him,) chatted to him about things we would do the next day and he would go back to sleep and that was it. It started getting worse that he would scream, this blood curdling scream at 2am.
I am ashamed to say we ended up giving in and just letting him. The problem is my husband starts really early in the morning and we both were walking around with circles under our eyes as we would not go back to sleep and worse his 2 ear old sister would wake and she is not nearly as easy to get back to sleep so I would be trying to re-settle 2 kids most times i would be awake until sunrise. Now we just let him come in, he sleeps at the end of our bed with his own pillow and blanket and goes back to sleep without a problem. Please dont judge me, I always promised I would never bend my own rules but I was desperate.
Now my second issue is now i cant get him to go to bed which has become a much bigger issue. He had a really good routine of dinner at 6, bath at 6:30, bottle of milk at 7:15 and teeth and bed at 7:25. He now cries when its bed time, screams, as soon as you lave the room he gets back up and he can do this for hours. I have tried the following
1.Cutting his day nap out all together
2. A sticker chart
3. Promise of a surprise in the morning
4. Staying in the room with him for around 10 minutes just so he would relax and snuggle in and then sneak out
5. Ipad time - an extra 15 minutes of quiet time with the lights off (night light on) and laying on his pillow.
When this tops working it turn to threats, if you dont stay in bed we are giving the ipad away to another little boy. He just cries for whatever you threaten to take away.
If you show him the surprise he will get if he stays in bed all night, when he starts getting back up, and you tell him he now cant have said surprise he cfries. I you dont tell him what the surprise is, it doesnt hold enough stock and he just ignores it.
I dont know what to do anymore and I am getting so anxious around bed time. He is generally well behaved, but I am getting so angry at him, cause if you try to put him back in bed he cries and wont listen to reason. He doesnt seem to understand rewards, its like he doesnt understnad he will get it or doesnt care but will cry hen you say he wont get it anymore. I am at my wits end.
I keep thinking it must be a phase and will grow out of it, is this true f so how long did you little one stop and what did you introduce that helped. I keep hoping when he can understand reason a bit more he will be better, but i dont know if I should be doing anything now. Sorry for the novel he stayd up until 10pm last night which is too late in my opinion. Problem is I work 3 days a week and have to get him up a 6am for day care so he cant catch the sleep in the morning and is exhausted.....